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You have gotten a lot of great advice here but there is something i wanted to make sure you don't miss...
Ending this affair is not first and formost for the marriage, it is about you...
saving your integrity
when you married, did you plan on not staying faithful?
look at yourself from the outside... is this what you wanted for yourself? is this what you expect from yourself?
this is about you, not your marriage or your relationship with your BH. it is about you.
look deep down into your soul.
are these actions true to the person you want to be? holy smokes <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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I think this is just an outstanding illustration of personal growth FL
I found that I learned many lessons about myself from the posts I made to others ... and now I see that same thing happening to you ! KEWL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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wow Pep.....I can't believe you posted about this (well actually I can believe!)....I just pulled out those same words on 2crazy's thread because I wanted to make sure they didn't "lost" or overlooked. They are incredibly important...and an example of profound insight. FL....fabulous!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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I posted to Luna's thread ... a part of that is directed to you.
take a look
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WOW. I just copied and saved it to Word. How do I approach WS with THAT!?!! I feel like a prize fighter in a 15 round bout. PS: Do you have more?
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Moral of the Mayonnaise Jar: Do you want a full life? Or just sand? --------------------------------------------------------------- BS: Me: 33 WS: 32 Married 10 years Affair Started: May 06 Exposure: July 06 Daughter 4 years Son 2 years
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some days you feel like a nut <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
some days you don't
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hi pep, just am just seeing this now.
i took off last friday and we left for the lake thurs night so i was not by a computer at all until yesterday.
thanks for bumping it up for me.
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I was thinking about you & how you cycle your self doubts and get disappointed & frustrated with yourself & your perceived lack of progress ....
You are profoundly transformed ... and it's time you acknowledged that fact & let go of the "I'm no good" self-flagellation.
it's time to move your perspective
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i agree. i know. i have changed!! i have grown!! i am no where near the person i used to be.
and then reality hits and i fall apart.
there is so much rubble around me still pep.
i don't want to run from it.
i want to clean it up.
ii really do.
but it's not working.
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ha, you must of read my post before i posted it!!!
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i just need more patience?
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not
not patience
you have patience
you need to accept the changes in yourself and use acceptance & faith as fuel to forge new progress
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every day
every breath
every look at your childrens' sweet faces
is a gift
stay alert to your gifts
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every day is an opening of opportunity
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from now on
every morning when you look in the bathroom mirror
say aloud to your face
I love and respect you
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you need to accept the changes in yourself and use acceptance & faith as fuel to forge new progress There are a lot of long words in there, Miss; we're naught but humble pirates. What is it that you want? translation... how????
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ok, i guess you are giving me suggestions.
by the way, my last post was me trying to ligthen myself up. i need my sense of humor sooo badly!!
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