Well I must have heard this Phil Collins song a hundred times and never really listened to the lyrics until today.
I'm sure there are many of us that can relate.




Seperate Lives

You called me from the room in your hotel
All full of romance for someone that you met
And telling me how sorry you were, leaving so soon
And that you miss me sometimes when you're alone in your room
Do I feel lonely too?

You have no right to ask me how I feel
You have no right to speak to me so kind
We can't go on just holding on to time
Now that we're living separate lives

Well I held on to let you go
And if you lost your love for me, well you never let it show
There was no way to compromise
So now we're living (living)
Separate lives

Ooh, it's so typical, love leads to isolation
So you build that wall (build that wall)
Yes, you build that wall (build that wall)
And you make it stronger

Well you have no right to ask me how I feel
You have no right to speak to me so kind
Some day I might (I might) find myself looking in your eyes
But for now, we'll go on living separate lives
Yes for now, we'll go on living separate lives
Separate lives

I know Hope. Isn't it funny how all these songs were around and we never noticed the meaning behind them. There are so many songs out there that address different sides of infidelity, it makes me realize how common it is and how normal our feelings about it are.

Here is another Phil Collins/Genesis song along the same lines. To me it speaks to the intial shock/denial of infidelity.


MISUNDERSTANDING
There must be some misunderstanding
There must be some kind of mistake
I waited in the rain for hours
And you were late

Now it's not like me to say the right thing
But you could've called to let me know
I checked your number twice, don't understand it
So I went home

Well I'd been waiting for this weekend
I thought that maybe we could see a show
Never dreamed I'd have this feeling
Oh but seeing you is believing
That's why I don't know why
You didn't show up that night

There must be some misunderstanding
There must be some kind of mistake
I was waiting in the rain for hours
And you were late

Since then I've been running around trying to find you
I went to the places that we always go
I rang your HOUSE but got no answer
Jumped in my car, I went round there
Still don't believe it
He was just leaving

There must be some misunderstanding
There must be some kind of mistake...

And then there is this one. The tone is a Love Buster to a WW but the message is right on for my M.


Don't let him steal your heart away.
Phil Collins

You were lonely and you needed a friend.
And he was there at the right time with the right smile.
Just a shoulder you lean on.
Someone to tell you it'll all work out all right.

Don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.

Don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.

You can look at him the way you did me.
And hold him close say never letting him go.
But any fool can see your fooling yourself.
But you ain't fooling me.

So don't let him to steer of your heart away.
No! Don't let him steal your heart away.

Don't pack my suitcase I'll be back.
Don't take my pictures off of your wall.
Don't let him change a thing because I'll be back.
Just tell him to pack his things and get out of your life.
And just gave me one more chance and I'll show you I'll right.
I'm right.

Because I've been thinking and I know it was me,
Leaving you lonely but hoping you could be strong.
Can you look at me straight tell me,
What else can I do but say I was wrong.
So don't let him steal your heart away.
No don't let him steal your heart away.


Well he's going to try to make it work for you.
And make you think your whole life has been leading to this.
But whenever you do, think about me,
Oh! Don't be fooled by his kiss.

Don't let him steal your heart away.
Please, don't let him steal your heart away.

And don't pack my suitcase I'll be back.
Don't take my picture off of your wall.
Did you hear me.
Don't let him change a thing ‘cause I'll be back.
Just tell him to pack his things and get out of your life.
And just give me one more chance and I'll show you I'm right.
You know I'm right.

'Cause you were lonely and you needed a friend.
And he was there at the right time with the right smile.
Just a shoulder you lean on.
Someone say don’t you worry it'll all work out all right.

But he's no good for you.
He'll make you think your whole life has been leading to this.
And whenever you do, think about me,
Oh! Don't be fooled by his kiss.

Oh no no non
And don't let him steal your heart away.
No! Don't let him take it
steal your heart away from me.
Don't let him steal your heart away
Don't you let him take it.

I find great strength in music. I have a post on the "In Recovery" board about music that is meaningful for times such as this. Please feel free to add your favorites to the list, I am looking for new music <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

This one below I think says how a BS feels about a WS in the fog. I know it was written about a member of the band that betrayed the band and left.

Pink Floyd
Wish You Were Here (Waters, Gilmour) 5:17

So, so you think you can tell
Heaven from he**,
Blue skys from pain.
Can you tell a green field
From a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?

And did they get you to trade
Your heros for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
And did you exchange
A walk on part in the war
For a lead role in a cage?

How I wish, how I wish you were here.
We're just two lost souls
Swimming in a fish bowl,
Year after year,
Running over the same old ground.
What have we found?
The same old fears.
Wish you were here.

Here's another good one:

Time for Me to Fly
REO Speedwagon

Ive been around for you
Ive been up and down for you
But I just cant get any relief
Ive swallowed my pride for you
Ive lived and lied for you
But you still make me feel like a thief

You got me stealin your love away
cause you never give it
Peeling the years away
And we cant relive it
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe its time for me to fly

You said wed work it out
You said that you had no doubt
That deep down we were really in love
Oh, but Im tired of holding on
To a feeling I know is gone
I do believe that Ive had enough

Ive had enough of the falseness
Of a worn out relation
Enough of the jealousy
And the intoleration
I make you laugh
And you make me cry
I believe its time for me to fly

{refrain} time for me to fly
Oh, Ive got to set myself free
Time for me to fly
And thats just how its got to be
I know it hurts to say goodbye
But its time for me to fly

Oh, dont you know its...
{refrain}

Its time for me to fly