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I wrote my NC letter to my H and he came to pick it up last night....I left it for him in the mailbox.
Why do I feel so horrible like I have just ended eveerything? I want to call him so badly and tell him to just come home. This is what he has been wanting for forever, but he still lives with the OM. My heart hurts, but I have stayed strong nad not called him all day. I am 7.5 months preg. and I just am tired of all this.
I am so scared to move on by myself. Do you ever get over this feeling? I have a 3.5 year old and one on the way and I am just so scared. I know that he should not treat me this way and he should not have his cake and eat it too, but why do I feel so bad and want to call him so badly. I feel like I should have given in and taken him back a long time ago and just lived with his infidelity. I just dont know anymore.
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{{confusedinFL}} Email me killnme2004-MB@yahoo.com
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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U R 7 1/2 months pregnant and this is no time to stress. Your H isn't home helping you through this pregnancy so at this time it is best to seek support and help for you and your little one. You have CS coming so that will help some financially.
Who is your immediate support group?
As for the hurt, it hurts more probably because you gave the letter before u were ready.
You generally don't give a WS an NC letter, it is a plan B letter which clearly states the reasons for limiting the contact (since you have children).
Right now you need to go take care of yourself and not put stress by rehashing his A and his stupidity.
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I do not really have a support group and my family and freinds tell me that I need to divorce him and move on with my life. The typical stuff that they say. I just dont know where else to find out why I am so confused about this relationship and that is why I am here.
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We will help you through this confused. Now have you read this site? All the Harley basic concepts? Plan A, plan B etc? If not get reading. Go to the library and pick up a copy of Surviving An Affair by Willard Harley. You have work you can do in the meantime.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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Can you place a call to Steve H @ MB or see if you can find a good MC in your area who is familar with MB principals? You need to create a support group that respects your decision. Look harder. Do you have a minister or a neighbor that can help?
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