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I have to say I give all of you who give online dating a try a lot of credit, but I myself will never do it. I live in a small town in Northern Wisconsin. I have been divorced four and a half years and in that time have been in two long term relationships (the latest being a emotional train wreck I am still trying to escape) and both have been started using more traditional methods. #1 My one and only blind date and #2 Meeting him and getting to be friends first (If only I had acknowledged the red flags!)
Anyhow, just be safe because there is such an opportunity for misrepresentation there. I have a friend who has been divorced two years and in my mind has never really healed. I have offered this site to her multiple times, but she never came here. She was having trouble finding dates in our small town so she hit the net. In that time she has had multiple dates, most of which have fizzled, but two that became something more. The first turned out to be an abusive alcoholic and luckily she moved on quickly, but the second turned out to be a cheating, abusive narcissist who in six months not only had multiple other relationships, but conned her out of $20,000. Granted I think that the majority of the bad stuff wouldn't have happened if I felt she was happy with herself and ready for a real relationship, but the fact is that she was lured into a false sense of security with both men because she chatted on line and on phone and "really knew them" before they ever met in person.
Just be careful and Good luck! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Take care and God bless!
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I have a question for the men. My friend believes that even online, men want to be the pursuer. So, she believes that they are more likely to connect if they reach out, and less if a woman winks or emails them. Is there any validity to this? I don't think so but everyone's experiences will be different. If a man is attracted to your profile he will make an effort to respond. Cheers, --ITB
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I have a question for the men. My friend believes that even online, men want to be the pursuer. So, she believes that they are more likely to connect if they reach out, and less if a woman winks or emails them. Is there any validity to this? I like to take relationships slowly. If a woman were to pursue me aggressively, that would push me away. On the other hand, if we're both on a "dating site" an exploratory interest can already be inferred, and I would be more inclined to consider a mutual exploration with a woman who had expressed an interest in me personally. Of course, it depends on the woman. There are some rather...interesting...profiles out there...
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