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They have an unlisted number in Texas, but I have been working on getting the number even if I have to fly there.


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Is her car gonna be there? COuld you leave a note on her windshield?


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And on the anonymous email thing...NEVER but NEVER hide exposure...You want the infidels to know that they have been exposed, otherwise, exposure serves no purpose...Exposure is designed to shed light and reality on affairs and force the infidels to see themselves through the eyes of others, which hastens the end of the affair by killing the fantasy...Also, it is indicative of fighting for your marriage, a noble endeavor and one that you should be proud of!

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They have an unlisted number in Texas, but I have been working on getting the number even if I have to fly there.




Lots of us Texans here--including me--whereabouts? Can I help?

I'd rather be helping you tonight than drowning in my self-pity So I'd be glad to help.


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If OM's Wife is unlisted what about OM's parents or siblings in the same hometown. Try any number you can to find her tonight.


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She won’t park near his hotel, because that’s how I found them last time. She had thrown away directions to a downtown hotel, when she told me she was visiting her grandmother. S, no I can't leave a note.


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He would have a rental car, like I said I know the hotel and not the room number, the front desk connected me to he room earlier. I called to confirm he was in town and now I know he is, so let’s say I’m 99% sure she’s there.

Waiting in the lobby is not the answer.




I would call again, when OM answers, tell him that there has been a family emergency (sound VERY panicky-throw in a couple of OMG's for good measure) and tell him you MUST speak to your wife as you KNOW that she is there...ACT ASSUMPTIVELY...Bulldoze Him...If he tells you she isn't there, bluff, and say that you have absolute evidence to the contrary, and repeat that there is a dire emergency (this is not a lie, as your wife being in a hotel with OM is indeed a family emergency)...Get her on the phone...Say what you wish at that point, she's busted...

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Okay, you're making this hard for yourself.

If she won't park in front of the hotel, then you park across the street, etc, and wait for OM to drive her to her car parked elsewhere. Or go looking for her car. It can't be that far. And this ;ate at night, I am sure teh parking lots are not that full. You're gonna need proof here, or else she will continue to lie to you and make you feel like this is all your fault.


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The other man lives across country and is 62 year and an executive of a local company but he usually works in other states. Today he is here, I do know his employer and could expose him there but that has its risks too.


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I have been thinking of calling his room but don’t know what to say!


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HL...

I understand that there have been people here that have used http://www.netdetective.com/ with success...You might try that as a way of finding OMW...

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Why Do I need proof, shes not home thats all the proof I need.


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The other man lives across country and is 62 year and an executive of a local company but he usually works in other states. Today he is here, I do know his employer and could expose him there but that has its risks too.




What risks?

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P.S. Did you read my post about calling OM's hotel?


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Exposure in a multibillion dollar company might do nothing or it might get my wife fired from her job. The CEO of her company knows all of the directors of this company and when you consider the other man was the former COO of the company my wife works for and that completes the circle. Wow that might be hard to follow.


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Exposure in a multibillion dollar company might do nothing or it might get my wife fired from her job. The CEO of her company knows all of the directors of this company and when you consider the other man was the former COO of the company my wife works for and that completes the circle. Wow that might be hard to follow.




Do you mean to tell me that the OM and your wife have continued to work for the same company??? HL, don't you see how this has ruined any chance that your marriage had for recovery? No contact was made impossible...Without NC, there is no withdrawal, without withdrawal there is NO RECOVERY!!!

Your wife and the OM SHOULD lose their jobs!!! Why in the world would you shield your WW from the CONSEQUENCES of her affair??? That is called ENABLING and is harmful to EVERYBODY!!! You most certainly should expose this affair to Human Resources and let the chips fall as they may...Those, HL, are the BRASS TACKS!!!

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What is more important - your wife's job or your marriage?

From your post above it seems as if the job is.

Where in Texas? Lots of us Texans here.

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