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I have been absent for a while, due to starting my new job. Wife is moving the children out of the house and into and apartment of our friends house. She feels that I am a sick person becasue I will not leave the house and let her live with the children. (she Has been living at her parents house for almost three months). I never asked her to leave she left on her own. She has stopped contributing to the financial committement to the house, I have borrowed money from family/friends to keep it afloat and it is a financail mess. Her parents refuse to help becasue she does not live here.(but the three children do) Go Figure....

I have changed, plan A and not plan B the best I can. She has become an angry and nasty person because I do not give in to her. I do not lay down and die. I do change my toon some times when she starts to try and belittle me.
Example: Yesterday she wanted to know what was up with my son, where was he sleeping, I said I do not care, then she got annoyed, and made some comments, she called me names etc. Then I said forget it you keep him tonight(sat). She wigged out. My son did not want to stay with her. She said she cancelled her plans. (I am sure a date).

our daughters are HS Cheerleaders and thier first games was yesterday, she did not want to go because, she was mentally, physically and emotionally drained, (I thinks she is embarrased because all our friends are there).

After that my son plays popwarner football and last night was our annual pep rally (I am the MC). She wanted to know what time it was over i told her do not worry I have him. She wigged out again calling me names, she came to the feild and got him, and brought him back two seconds before it started. She then got him at the end and left. She never watched it for him and our daughters also performing there too.

She says she hates me and more and more every day. unfortunely she has also told me that her OM that I finally realized that she was seeing while we tried to recover in Jan06 was still in the picture and probably still is. She also told me that her family has met the other guy and like him very much. OUCH!!!!!!

What is the truth, why is she nasty? how do i know when enough is enough?

Why not Plan B?

Pep

I am plan B but we still have contact......because of the children.


Maybe I am doing it wrong?

I would love to do it right

How do you know you are doing it wrong?

Pep

answer:

"She says she hates me and more and more every day. "

when you allow yourself to listen to her tell you anything NOT about the children

Pep

AHHH very very true,

This morning she dropped off our son, and she wanted the three of us to figure out a plan for seeing him.

We can up with one, I was done and closed the door she stood staring at the door and then sat in her car 10 min before driving away.

Was that good?

I can not find the Plan b outline

You are not in Plan B if you are emotionally hobbled with each & every transfer of the kids

you might consider getting a mediator to come up with a parenting plan ... you need LEGAL help ... do you have an attorney? is there a legal separationa agreement?

Pep

Yes there is a legal separation agreement, it is very vague. My attorney say it is BS. It states some financial stuff, and that we can live separate lives. Oh big deal.

in that case

re-open the discussion with the legal minds and tighten up the agreement so there are no loose ends making you this crazy ... your tone sounds very "end-of-my-rope-ish"

if you are at the end of your rope ... tie a knot I get swinging in a new direction

Pep

never,

What kind of Plan B is this???????????

Get the mediator as of 3 weeks ago.Put the hammer down financially. She is as responsible as you are for your financial debt. If not, get your separation agreement modified. New attorney? or did he help draw up the "BS" agreement? If so, new legal help is #1 on your to do list.

Quit your pouting. Woe is me is appealing to no one.This is not easy work.

Continue to be your children's hero.

Best of luck