MC.
Good for you, I have a question, how did you get out of the fog? and what did it take to do so?

and how do you see OM now?

Tony.

Awesome team work by you and your H!

FANTASTIC!!!

Good job, Becca.

And yes, sadly enough it has taken that long for me to see it but in my situation when things ended last year originally (I found I was pg 4 weeks after I chose to work on my marriage and stayed married) we were still working together and we would see each other at work (no talking or emails or anything but still contact nonetheless!). Once I became pregnant and OM found about it through other people, is when the eamils resumed, he was convinced this baby was his etc. At that time and during various ocassions we had SCREAMING matches with each other over this situation. Things got really ugly but still, we were both convinced that we were "in love"..... we stopped communicating for a few months again and shortly before I moved (6 weeks before my due date and 3 weeks before DD was born) he again began to email, call me. He had me convinced he was going to stop at nothing if baby was his. A lot of the things he had said were starting to upset me as he was starting to show his true colors.

Again, it took until baby was born (6/8) for things to really get ugly. It wasn't until then that I started to really see him for who he is and the "fog" started to lift. However, even at that time, i was still very uncertain of my marriage and given the Dna test results, I was also convinced I had to give OM a chance to be a father to this baby. When BH told me he wanted to raise her as his own, it took me a few weeks to accept that from him. Even at that time and knowing BH would be by far a much better father to OC, I still had my foggy thoughts and kept thinking that MAYBE just MAYBE OM could be in her life. However, BH's only request was for OM never to be in her life!

If you see my other posts.... it took me a while to "Get it" that this is what is right for my family (we have two other children between BH and I) but I finally saw it when OM began to act very immature and childish and started to make requests/threaths as I wasn't willing to move back to the state where he lives so he could have a relationship with OC. The uglyness just got worse and worse.... and my fog lifted higher and higher....

Of course, let's be real.... it was prayer that did it!!! BH prayed for this, I prayed for this, I had friends praying. God truly answered in his time and JUST in time for me to not lose my entire family!!

Not sure if this helps you but this is my sad story...

Becca

HI McBecca.

WOW I’ve been following your replies to HS, looks like you are completely out of the fog, great advice and insight into the mind of a WW, thank you so much.

Maybe you would start a thread, entitled: “Into the mind of a WW.”

It would probably help a few ww understand the importance of NC, from somebody that
Was in their shoes a few weeks ago.

I’m very proud of you.

We would like an update on your story.

Tony.

McB,


I agree with this. Guys like me are so lost as to how our ww's see things when in the fog that it really helps that people like you are around here.

I love your posts to heartsore. Also, the wonderfull Wonderings duo have a lot to offer here as well.

I don't post on my thread much anymore but I have been following your posts to (among others) Heartsore.

I'm rootin for him as much as I am for me and my WW.....LOl

Keep posting, It really helps.

JS

McBecca - I too am just totally blown away by the change in you, what you have become, are becoming and how quickly you have turned this around.

You are an inspiration and will have a powerful message to new WW's on this board. I hope you stick around for a long time.

God Bless You

HI McBecca.

I’m sure you have a big fan club here.

Tony.

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She's pretty shy Tony. Doesn't take the attagirls does she. LOL.