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WW coming to get her stuff
#1749441 09/20/06 02:40 PM
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My story can be read here:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...e=2#Post3052255

She has dropped off the divorce papers for me to sign on Sept.1st of this month. I have not signed them yet. This Saturday she is coming to get the rest of her things out of the house.

I still want to save my marriage and was in plan B until the papers were dropped off and since then I have only talked via email once about her getting the rest of her stuff.

My question is: Should I have the house spick and span, leave it normal, make it dirty, leave some pictures out from past vacations, pictures of better days etc.?

Baiscally, should I do anything special with the house in hopes of it making a diffrence?

FYI: I will not be here when she is getting her stuff. I am choosing not to.

Thanks!
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losing_hope_fast #1749442 09/20/06 03:16 PM
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Once they hand the divorce papers to you......I think thats it. To me, they have given up. I told my EX I would do anything necessary to keep our marriage in tact, for ourselves and the kids. Well, she handed me the papers and a pen to sign with. I signed them, told her "He can HAVE you" (maybe I shouldnt have done that....LOL!....and never looked back.
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StartinOver #1749443 09/20/06 03:46 PM
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Frankly, I don't think doing anything special with the house will make a difference one way or the other. One person can't save a marriage.

She's someone else's problem now.

BS(me) 44 XWW(her) 43 Two beautiful daughters. There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path :Morpheus
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LHF,

Just make sure she ALSO picks up a list of all debts you both have incurred, mortgages,car payments, utilities, insurance, credit cards(with you off any joint cards), cable tv etc.

In short every PENNY must be accounted for and she needs to acknowlege that she will pay. Emphasize that you will not carry her on any debt. You are not her daddy nor are you her bank.

Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle

You believe easily what you hope for ernestly

Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does

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