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WORDS TO THE MEN-TOOLS
#1760491 10/22/06 08:36 PM
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Now I don`t mind my hubby buying tools for jobs he has to get done around the house or the cost either, nor do I look at them as a luxury.Now why is it that some men veiw woman`s tools as such? Washer, Dryer,Dishwasher ect? Are`nt these tools for us to get our work done? I think I don`t like being told that I just got an early x-mas present. But I did tell hubby today we BOTH got our x-mas present after that remark.LOL and besides I don`t REALLY have to have that dryer ya know, HE can go to the laundrymat after all to wash his workclothes. *wink*
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aptiva #1760492 10/23/06 08:26 AM
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Aptiva,

You are right. The tools we buy as men and women are for the good of the family and IMHO should be treated as such unless there is an agreement ahead of time that they will be a gift to both. A few years back we had to buy a new washer and dryer, I thought of them as a gift to both as I would hate to have to go to the laundramat and certainly wouldn't want my wife to have to go. Now my welder....well that was just a toy, but I have used it around the house for the greater good.

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I agree the different tools used in a household (whether the tools are mostly used by men or women or traditionally viewed as “men” tools or “women” tools) should be viewed as tools of the family and be treated as such. For this reason me and my H usually buy tools we need in the household as presents for both of us and not as “my” tools or “your” tools. For example, one year we decided to buy a dryer after it was on special late in November and we both agreed that it would be our joined and early Christmas present to each other.
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Suzet,

That's usually how things go in our house. If it benefits the hwole family then it's a family thing, if it benefits an individual then it's that person's gift.

I would not want a dryer as a personal gift from FWW, nor would she want that from me. It is a thing/gift/tool for the whole family.

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I veiw them also as tools for the whole family. My hubby veiws them as gifts I guess, because he thinks a woman can do as women did in the old days. I also veiwed the statement as a LB in which I said we both have our x-mas present. Maybe I`m being too sensitive.
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Strange how this tools thing seems to be so common! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

If I go and use his tools, like a new drill or grinder,,well anyone would think I was selling his first born! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I mean I said he could use my tools like the washer and clothes line and iron ANYTIME he wishes.<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

He's never seemed to avail himself of the offer though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

As for a early Xmas present .. ha! I'd rather get a $2 card and a nice kiss and be quite happy .... give me an iron and I'd GIVE it to him alright. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I'm sort of joking .... by this much [] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.
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Laundromat? Send her down to the stream with a washboard and some soap! I'll even throw in the family clothesline for automatic drying!

How many of those "man tools" are a result of some "honey do" list?

Sheesh, don't we have enough to argue about? By the way, there are some kitchen "gadgets" that I love, which surprises my wife from time to time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

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