Yeah Jim:

Wern't you going on a vacation for a week with the (F??) WW?

LG

Just wanted to wish you good luck and continued strength...and thanks for the support for my sit.

It is a long road back...you have a couple month head start...I hope I get a chance to go down the same path.

The vacation was a lot of fun. We really connected. No sex, but I did get to 2nd base. It seems like she has a full fledged sexual aversion, but we are working through it. She still isn't ready to talk about the A, and doesn't want to go to MC, but she is wearing her ring now, she says that she wants to stay together, she is more open and honest, and she is much more empathetic towards me. She says she is sorry she hurt me and sorry that she can't make herself have SF with me, but when she is ready to have SF again, she will be all over me. As it is now, we cuddle and kiss like when we first started seeing each other, and we get along great. Recovery is going more slowly than I would like, but it is still moving forward. It has been hard going almost 10 months now without SF.

You know Jim, she may have to see someone specializing in sexuality to overcome her issues with this. I am sure that she feels dirty and seedy for having done what she did and is struggling with that, which is a good thing.

Here's wishing you continued success!

Man I know it is slow, too slow for us BS. Sorry about no SF - can't help you there!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Will she go to MC to help you? Make it not about her, but how to help Jim????

Uh, not going to happen. I already tried that. "I don't believe in that stuff." If I push anymore, it will just turn into an argument. Maybe MC is in our future, but not now.

what is PA?

PA = Physical affair

Jim - what's new in old St Lou??

How's life been, you know, with SF and all?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Bump for Jim

It's going okay. I could still use SF more often, but she says she's working on it. Right now she is looking for a new job with less stress. She currently works 50-60 hours/week, so she isn't in the most loving mood when she comes home, but she is now committed to me and the M.

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New job with less hours would be very good with talk of a baby somewhere down the line.

Jim:

I saw a post you wrote in another thread and decided to read your entire story over again... only to realize that I sent you a note a few months ago when I first started posting on here and didn't know EA from EN. Anyways, I think a lot can be learned from reading your story. It is ironic how similar the actions and the words of the WS's tend to be!

Anyways, I also got to thinking that even though we are not out of the woods yet (I can't even see the clearing), I do have some things to be grateful about. I still have the ILY's and SF, though I don't feel like she is fully on board like she used to be, if you know what I mean. I guess I have to be content that at least she is letting me meet her needs some of the time, and that when the fog lifts, she will see that I am the one dedicated to meeting her needs.

Feel free to read my story and offer your thoughts if you have the time. Right now I am trying to make a list of those things that my wife hints about that would make her happy, that I usually don't listen to because I am so busy trying to do what I think will make her happy.

Sigh...

Jim,

Sorry your trip to Ireland didnt go so well. You have been very helpful to me and your effort you have done on my thread has NOT gone unnoticed. I just wanted to show you my support for you.

I hope that things arent as rough as what the seem to be. Maybe as you are getting farther away from the trip things have improved.