hey there, I hope you come give us a report.

praying for you

IP

This is kind of a "for what it's worth" comment. I guess by now you have faced your husband and listened to whatever his anger has made him say. I am with the BSs that have posted here (don't know if a FWS has). YOU did the right thing. There is no doubt in my mind. I am constantly amazed and in awe of folks like you who have such strength to expose the ugly truth to the light of day. Not only are you fighting for you own family, which is very much your business, but you are also giving the OP a chance at healing.

I don't want this to sound bad, because I am a FWS and fully accept that I committed adultery, but I was into cybersex and there was not an "other person" that my wife could expose. Had there been, I guess I might have been very angry if she did expose the other person, but in the end run, I wouldn't be able to say she did anything wrong. She would have told the truth and what's wrong with that?

My wife did tell one or two friends, but not the full detailes (I was into cybersex with other guys). I told my coworkers, dad and some friends. My dad and the friends because I needed help and coworkers because I was in an out of work for a while just trying to keep from killing myself (did a lot of journaling...totally distracted, etc.). I am not sorry that I exposed myself. I am not sorry that my wife told who she told. The way I look at it, if they have a problem with me and don't want to support me and my wife in recovery, then they are not really friends.

Likewise, you need the OW parents to assist you in your recovery, chiefly by supporting OW in NC with your husband. The OW needs her parents to assist her in her recovery. You husband certainly needs the OW parents to assist in NC. The way I look at it, YOU have blessed...catch that word BLESSED...everyone by exposing the affair to the OW family.

I am sorry, I tend to write a lot. Bottom line, as a FWS, I am awed by and admire what you did in exposing the affair. I just wanted you to know that.

God bless and I hope things went better than you expected.

Jim:

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate you sharing your story with me. It has been very hard to expose, but I think it's the right thing to do. I wasn't getting anywhere before, that's for sure. I just hope I am doing the right thing here and I hope I am executing Plan A correctly. You gave me some good ideas to share with the OW's parents.

****giving the OP a chance at healing.****

****Likewise, you need the OW parents to assist you in your recovery, chiefly by supporting OW in NC with your husband. The OW needs her parents to assist her in her recovery. You husband certainly needs the OW parents to assist in NC. The way I look at it, YOU have blessed...catch that word BLESSED...everyone by exposing the affair to the OW family.****

I plan on writing them a very long letter explaining the entire situation. I didn't get to tell them enough on the phone and I don't think they would sit and listen to it, so they are going to be getting a letter from me.

Thank you for your support.

I posted an update on my other thread. It's called: Update on my situation / some questions about my husband and our marriage.

I tried changing my subject line and it changed, but I still don't think I did it right. I went to the first post and clicked on Edit. I don't like that it went right over my very first post though? Now the conversation doesn't flow???? Did I do this wrong again?? The posts aren't in order now? Plus, it didn't bump my thread to the top of the Main Index, it's still on Page 2? What did I do wrong. I'm sorry, I feel so stupid!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

You need to edit the subject of your first post to reflect an update. Do not edit the content of that post. Once the title of the thread is changed, then you click on reply and post your update. If you posted your update over the first post and edited it, you have lost your first post.

- Jim

Thank you Jim!

I'll get the hang of this one of these days! Well, I guess I lost my first post. That's a real bummer. I guess if anyone new comes in and tries to read this from the beginning, they are going to be VERY confused. What a mess! Sorry everyone! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I guess there's nothing I can do about it now. Oh well.....

Thanks for explaining this to me Jim!