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Sis,
You are clearly a self sufficient competent woman. BUT, from here forward you start making a mental list of the things you will no longer do-your-self but instead will NEED your husband to do for you.
He owns meeting those needs for you, and you own thanking and admiring him for doing them so damn well -- to the degree no one else on this earth could.
New "need meeting" marriage dynamics to learn and embrace, Sis. You're well on your way.
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Hmmm, Mimi - I disagree. SHE needs to clean out the car. On the other things she can feign ignorance - the GFI, oil, etc.
I love my ipod already. I'm CRAZY about music. I have a thousand CD's, and very eclectic tastes. Love Big Band, Reggae, Rock, Jazz, Country, Latino music (including Cumbia, Marimba, etc.) My first downloaded songs were Zapoteco music, kind of like Latino, but sung in Zapotec.
Have to work tomorrow, but hoping to download some more.
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I remember once he told me that he always felt so good when he would clean the minivan (......he would say, "It makes me feel so good to know I've gotten the van all clean for my wife." I DIDN'T GET IT!!! mental headslap... believer, did you see her comments above? HE is the PRO car cleaner! It used to make him FEEL GOOD to clean up her car for her. She needs to allow him to do this and show her appreciation. He needs to feel NEEDED again!
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Dang those Southern gals. Why try to compete with the best?
We westcoasters haven't evolved to all of this GIRLY stuff.
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Minor T/J "I'm CRAZY about music." Me too, B. You should love this website for picking out playlists for your Ipod. http://www.fiql.com/ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
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Dang those Southern gals. Why try to compete with the best? We westcoasters haven't evolved to all of this GIRLY stuff. Huh? Wait just a dang minute there, B. We Yanks are wayyyyyy evolved. We typify GIRLIE stuff, R-E-M-E-M-B-E-R? Jo
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No, we are self-reliant, smart, etc, etc.
But seriously, I've noticed a big difference in the way they treat their men.
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And Sis... Don't forget the BREADCRUMBS... He's trying to find his way back home...and is literally asking for YOUR HELP... Isn't it so wonderful to know that YOU ARE THE ONE WHO REALLY HAS THE POWER....and NOT HER... ..CLAWS IN DEEP..MY [censored]... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Last TJ, promise. Here in the Great Pac NW we treat our men like kings, and they reciprocate by treating us like queens. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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We Yanks are wayyyyyy evolved.
We typify GIRLIE stuff, R-E-M-E-M-B-E-R?
Jo <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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I'm thinking maybe we could do it together...I could have all the car cleaning stuff out when he comes over to show me the car warming up trick/check the GFI.
"I was just getting ready to clean out the inside of the car like you suggested. Wanna give me a hand? You are right...it's really bad, isn't it? I always liked how nice and clean you'd get it for me...it's such a mess now, not even close to how nice you'd keep it." That way I throw in the affirmation/admiration bit, but still don't come across as completely helpless (he knows better than to think I can't figure out how to vacuum the crumbs off the seat), but gives him the chance to shine and do what used to make him feel good. But when it comes down to it, I could just sit back, watch him and keep him company while he does all the work. Too bad it's December or my t-shirt could accidently get wet.
That a good compromise?
I did tell him in the VM tonight how handsome he looked in his uniform today and what a pleasant, unexpected surprise it was to see him. Several more weeks of this and he'll begin to realize that it is true change, not just a trap to snare him back. Then he'll really have something to think about when Plan B starts. Target day for implementation of Plan B...Feb. 14. My birthday is Feb. 15. Can we make it? Yes, we can!
I've decided that the OW doesn't exist. She's too painful to think about, and when I do, the ugly movies start, starring WH.
I have tons of music on iTunes already, and it works fine on my older model shuffle, but it's the new nano that requires the newer version iTunes. I will check out Audible. Books on tape would be great to listen to while engage in my new hobby, crocheting. (gotta multi-task)
Thanks, all!
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Let's contiue to TJ since Sis in not around... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
B...also check out..www.pandora.com..helps you discover new music that you might like...
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You silly yankee gals can't even fix yore hair right!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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Hi Sis..excuse me, you're back..you and I tend to post at the same time.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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"...and the Northern girls with the way they kiss, they keep their boyfriends warm at night...."
iPods + regionalism = bad music
but I just had to get in my licks for the upper midwest
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LilSis - I have to bow out of this one. It is way over my head.
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whoops! that last post of mine was for Resilient!! lol <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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You silly yankee gals can't even fix yore hair right!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Come to think of it B, something I have noticed about them Southern bells thats so different from us Yanks is they're so jelly of us. <shrugs> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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B-the only reason it might be "over your head" is because Mel's hair is so BIG that it adds a few inches <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I have to work tomorrow, too..YUCK
Promised myself that I won't do this again next year...
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