Would WH tell RT what you have been doing?

I wonder about that myself....what do YOU think? you know him best.....something tells me he has mentioned some of it, but is very careful NOT to tell everyhting.

I predict that he certainly is not being OPEN and HONEST with her.

TURD is nervous
WH is not yet divorced

WH is spending an increasing amount of time with his family *gasp*

WH has been depressed and agitated ... so TURD diagnoses him with S.A.D. & suggests a tanning bed solution ... and it's not helping

TURD suspects WH is cheating on her with his wife

Plan A is kicking [censored]!

TURD suspects that WH is taking his wife to Phoenix !!!!!! ... which is why he will not take the Dodge Viper LilSis drives (oh? ... wait, it's a VIBE not a VIPER)

I think that this comes from SEEING HER..being in the presence of EVIL..she can't help but elicit AWFUL, DARK, FEELINGS at this point. She is your ENEMY. She is trying to DESTROY your family.

Try to focus on continuing to WAGE YOUR BATTLE. You scored highly yesterday and she senses that she is beginning to lose so this is a GOOD SIGN....

I parked next to a vibe yesterday an i thought you, LS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I have been making soup...I am craving granola.

YOU are very powerful!

TR should be afraid....VERY afraid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


edit..
TR?....now, she's TurdRat, i guess.
my keys stick.

do NOT mention the drive-by to WH

that's TURD'S job

it will be a major wedge between them

if WH mentions the drive by to you ... say "What are you talking about?"

which is a non-denial by you and allows you to present yourself as a listener ... which you can bet the rat's babies TURD is not doing ... she's doing all the talking by now!!!!

Pep

Hello all, I have to say you are one awesome lady LS and you are very lucky to have all of these intelligent & wise folk help you with your stich.

I had to say this. I saw how you made reference to RT not liking cats does anyone but me not find that odd. Why would a rodent befriend a natureal known predator? LOL. Hope this thought brings you from that dark place she put you in.

Also even if things don't work out the way you hope with your H which I am sure they will any other man will be happy to have you and lucky to have them as part of their life. Good luck. We all think your story is very inspirational.

MB

I was actually proud of myself for bouncing back so quickly from those negative feelings. I consciously turned my thoughts away from RT. It certainly helps to have gone right to the office where I can be successful and competent. And I focused my mind on the fact that *I* have the ability (for lack of a better word) to walk up to ILs door. RT will never have that ability. I have every right to be there, she does not, and never will. She’s got to be digging those claws in for all she’s worth. That trip coming up has to be freaking her out.

I was a little disappointed that WH wasn’t more receptive to my dropping off the granola. He seemed interested yesterday afternoon. So maybe it was the idea that RT might see me, if he knew she was coming by (but again…I do not think she’s been in the house with all MY stuff sitting around). It would make perfect sense for him to take the dog for a walk if he was reluctant to see me…it’s HER showing up at the same time that’s just so…weird, inexplicable.

I will see him tonight when I drop off/pick up the boys for my meeting. Should I just leave it alone for the day other than that? I’m thinking yes…especially if he experienced fallout. Time to back off again.

Again, I’m ASSUMING it was RT…now that I’m over the shock/icky-ness of “seeing” her, I hope it WAS her, because it likely works to my advantage. Anyone see a DOWNSIDE?

IMHO I think if it was her it will certainly work in your favor. Also I am sure you will find out if it was her because if it was her she will indeed LB and it may push him closer to you and further away from her.

If she saw his car in the drive and he wasn't there and he tells her that, with her doing a drive by (obvious lack of trust) do you think she will believe he really wasn't? If you were the OW and you saw your for lack of a better word boyfriend's ex coming to house while he was alone what would you think?

Also if she feels the need to do that then she may feel the power she once had is weaking. He may not have been to enthused about the granola because she may have been giving him grief about the things you are doing. More LBing. It's a win-win here. I hope this helps.

MB

Even more, he's allowing "the enemy" into his space a lot lately, from Turd's POV.

Remember, you're so rotten, she's "terrified" of you, so how do you think she feels about her fornicator consorting with "the enemy"?

I just have this gut feeling, because the woman stared openly, that it was her. I think she was checking up.. Wonder if he's been spenging less time with her lately as he has become visibly more conflicted.

And I still think the tanning bed is at the gym, and he's going without her.

Morning probably went something like this:

WH talked to RT, she was coming by or picking him up or some such nonsense.

LS called with her Plan A gesture. WH did NOT tell her not to come, but LS had clearly interferred with his affair-action.

WH called RT back and deflected her with some story -- nooo, I'll meet you there or I need to do something, give me half an hour....

RT's radar went off. She's been feeling increasingly uncomfortable and there's more distance with WH. Things just aren't "right" -- so she did a drive by.

And lo and behold -- LS is walking up to the house!

Can you imagine the LB'ing to come??? Their "wonderful Wednesday" is going to suck bigtime!!!

HOW'S THAT FOR A POSITIVE SPIN?
And I think that's exactly what happened to day, its not just spin -- its what I really think!

Go for the kill, LS! Get in touch with him with your best Plan A stuff today. Be the hero on his Phoenix trip (in contrast RT is having a hissy about it...)

sis

my h loved fresh cucumbers sliced up with tomatoes, vinegar, salt, spices and a little bit of sugar

i made some for him to take with him when he came to pick up one of the dogs

when i gave it to him with a big smile

he "sighed" and stood there looking at the bowl

after a few minutes, he reluctantly took it with him

-i later discovered that he and OW were seeing each other again and she was spending lots of time at his place so i'm sure he stopped somewhere and threw it out the window or hid the "evidence" from her so she wouldn't see it.....he never returned the bowl

-then on christmas i got him a model car for his collection....one he had always wanted but we had never found....and he got me a gift certificate to a mall (real personal YUCK but at least it was some effort)

we openend them together and he also opened his gifts from the dogs

he was talking about coming home then. he actually had a plan

....i later discovered that he and OW were broken up for awhile then and she was trying to save her marriage for the "kid's sake"

-along comes the week of Valentine's day.....just 2 short months later

i still thought we were working on reconciling...he never indicated otherwise

i got him another great car.....bright red

i left it on the table when he came to get the dog because i didn't even think that i would see him that day

bright RED wrapping paper and a big red bow....right next to the dog's stuff

i pulled in just as he was walking out the door. the gift was still on the table.

when i held it out to him, he acted like he hadn't even seen it there on the table.....then he shook his head

i put it back on the table and went outside to play with the other dog so he could just leave (and not see my tears)

he took it with him when he left....still wrapped up

...i found out later that OW had come back to him

i'm sure that gift is still wrapped laying in a ditch somewhere or he opened it, decided he loved it and hid it until weeks later so he could pretend he had bought it for himself


(i went off on a ramble didn't I?)

my point is....each time....as much as his heart was torn

HE TOOK THEM

he took them because he still had FEELINGS towards ME and didn't want to HURT ME because he still CARED about me

this is what i think of when i read about what your H did

The downside I see about the RT driveby is that she stops taking for granted that she's got LS's WH and starts working harder to keep him. She could start her own version of Plan A.

Hopefully, she's LBing instead.

First:

You have already discovered the secret to dealing with the memories. You have to do this again and again and again. It will get easier.

Second:
Of course that was her! Who else would stare at you? Unless you were nekkid or something?

OP don't Plan A. They just squeeze tighter and grasp harder. Your WH is feeling the pressure by now.

Don't know if your work schedule would allow, but I would start dropping by early in robe and slippers whenever possible.

Imagine the size of golf balls she would leave if she did another drive-by just as you were walking back out to the car in your PJ's, lololol. Even just you being there at all will get her goat like nothing else.

He did not know she was coming, unless she picks him up and he just runs really quick out to the road. There is no way he would have her come in, ever, while his wife's goodies are lying all around. That is known as attempted suicide.

This is super!!!!!!!

Yes, her own version of Plan A would be a problem...and she is cunning and manipulative. But she's also EVIL and I refuse to believe that evil will triumph.

Well, the good news is that WH called me here at work. I was in a staff meeting, but he left a VM. “Thanks for the granola. I remember you saying you needed some stuff at Sam’s, and I’m here right now and will be for the next 10 minutes or so, so if you get this, give me a call and let me know what you need.”

I called back (It was about a half hour later). He had already left Sam’s, but he offered to go back. I told him not to bother (he was already back at ILs) since I didn’t have my list and could only remember a couple of items that I wanted from there. He told me he would probably be going over the weekend or early next week and could get what I needed then. I asked if he tried the granola and he said he was going to have some just then.

(An aside…It’s interesting that he’s willing to buy things for me when he was so worked up over the support issue.)

I confirmed for tonight and we hung up. Who-ho! I’m excited that he called, and was so friendly! I was expecting the evil alien if he got LB’d. Maybe it WASN’T RT, but it was just so suspicious. Maybe I’m just paranoid..?? (gee…why would I POSSIBLY…)

I just need to remember to take this little taste of nice-ness and not read too much into it.

OMG, GF..YOU ARE KICKING BUTT!!!!



Go ahead and read a lot into this..THIS IS MAJOR!!!

This is why she was doing the driveby...and it WAS RT!!!

How does he like for you to dress? From the past, what kind of OUTFITS have been his FAVORITES?

This is your assignment for TONIGHT!!

The seeds you have been planting are starting to peek out from the ground. Keep watering them as we all sit here and watch them grow!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The real H is being let out of the dungeon for his 1 hour a day of exercise, lol.

You're right not to read too much into it. Don't get sucked into the good, and don't get knocked down by the bad. Stay steady, because by now, everything has good meanings for you.

If he is nice - he misses you, feels bad, and is reaching out. A part of him wants to come home.
If he is mean - the mindsucking alien senses that it is losing control and tries to make up for lost time. A part of him still wants to come home.

If RT is secure - so much the better, as she will become overconfident and show her true colors.
If RT is insecure - so much the better, because she will be clinging, needy, whiny, maybe even love-busty, desperate for reassurance that he can't truthfully give, suspicious, untrusting, and will show her true colors.

If he takes your gifts - he realizes he doesn't deserve them but takes them anyway so as not to hurt you, and he can't help himself anyway, but feels really bad for being such a heel.
If he doesn't take your gifts - he knows he doesn't deserve them, and they make him feel bad for breaking up his family, and it would make his large rodent unhappy if she knew, so he turns them down......and feels like a heel.


Do you see? Every road he takes, every road you take, keep leading to the same place: home and family. Plan B will crystallize that.

PS The seeds are sprouting in my little tabletop greenhouse. I didn't dig them up, though I wanted to. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />