I am in recovery with my FWW, and we are actually getting along, but this just popps into my head every so often.

After finding out about the A, my FWW felt so guilty that she kept telling me that she wanted to kill herself, that contiunied till just about the time she got pregent (good thing bad timeing). It just feels like i never was given a chance to make the stay/go decision myself.

Knowing me, and baby asside, i probably still would have chosen to stay in the M. My wife is trying to be the best W she can be and since d-day has been very committed to the W. I wish she would take a more leading role in fixing her mistake, but that may come in time, right now she is in new momy mode.

The baby for me is a mixed blessing, pressure from other people and myself to become a parent after buying a house togeter was just one of the stresses that led to the A. I am personally excited to become a DADy, but realy wish we had more time to Rcover from the A.

I just wanted to know what was the limit people had. There is times where i just want to call it quits, forget the baby and forget my loving wife, but I know i would hate myself for it.

wiley, are you in recovery to find out what has led to her multiple affairs? Because unless and until those reasons are addressed and resolved, you can count on this happening again. Is she in intensive counseling? If she taking EXTRAORDINARY MEASURES to affair proof your marriage?