I am so happy that I am able to separate business and pleasure. I never believed that my WH would cut out and not pay, but I don't play when money is involved, especially since my father didn't pay one lousy DIME for CS (also no cards, no phone calls, no seeing him --oh, sorry I spoke to him on the phone right before my graduation from High School--he said he was proud of me and loved me--I was talking to a stranger, but I digress)

Good for you Fox, get him to help with those kids.

Right now, I have CS and alimony (alimony = money for the mortgage and home equity loan). WH has always paid, so I guess I'm lucky that the guilt made him do it.

He's in DENIAL, and wants everyone to be shiny happy, so he doesn't have to deal with what lies beneath the exterior. It's coming.

Hiya Wild! Any word from your lawyer? How are your DD's doing?

Hey WildH,

I hope you had a good weekend. Any good news? Keep the howitzers loaded.

In a bad spot today. Worried about money and how I'm going to make it work. Asked my employer for a loan (which I HATE to do) and they can't/won't do it.

They loaned me the money for the lawyer and then a bit extra in September. I intended for it to be a loan. They decided they would just take it out of my end of year bonus which they did. After the partners discussed it today, they decided they couldn't and they'd already done alot. Which they had. One partner made it sound like they gave me that money.....they took it out of my bonus so they were repaid. So frustrating, I'm not looking for a hand out. I can see their frustration, this has been going on for a long time and they have been very accommodating but it's getting to the point I won't have money for gas to get to work. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

I'll figure something out. I just don't know what yet.

My weekend was ok. DD12 went to a friend's house for a while. The weekend was pretty quiet, got lots of stuff done around the house. I'm planning on getting the things together that WH wanted that I agreed to and putting it in the garage. More [email]d@mn[/email] work I have to do because of him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I'm fed up all the way around. Stressed and frustrated.

Left 2 more messages for my lawyer this morning about child support and visitation. I told him we can't wait for WH to agree because he won't. I need something done ASAP.

Thanks for checking in with me.

This is how my weekend got started:

WH wanted to give me an updated list of what he wanted. I asked him to fax it over instead of going through DDs. Here's what happened.















I stopped responding after this. That comment about a hot check is a crock. Where in the he!! did he come up with that? I just stewed over that all weekend. How can he say such a thing? And who is he telling this kind of stuff to? Is his mom in on it? I started to respond (in a not very nice way) and then decided the best answer is no answer. I was getting ready to tell him where he could shove that swing.

I backed off...everytime he starts that [email]cr@p[/email], I'm dropping it. He can sit and stew and be mad that I'm not responding. Tough. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I am so sorry WildH. I keep reading this stuff on different threads and it still always makes my jaw drop and really pi55es me off.

Keep pushing your lawyer. It's time he/she/we/be/it started earning the the big bucks they cost.

You are doing good not responding. It's funny, if Wayzilla passed a message that she wanted something I pretty much had no desire to keep it anymore. Even if I used to really like whatever it was. Off to Mount Wayward in the garage it went.

Again I am so sorry but I really believe you are going to make it out of this fine. Not today and probably not tomorrow, but soon. You are too strong and too smart to fail.

Hang in there. We are here.

{{Wild}} It's rediculous how long he's gotten away with not paying some CS. Do you have any family that can help you, even with a little spare cash for gas til your next paycheck?

And talk about nitpicking over stupid crap, he's worried about some stupid log swing?? Geesh! Get a life man... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

OMG! Can you believe this guy! Is he nuts? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
You need to go back to Plan B.
Stay away from him, he is whacked!

MB
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Sometimes a good exit is all you can ask for.

I did have to borrow money from my mom for gas. I HATE that! 33 years old and asking my mother for money! She doesn't have much either, though. She and my father divorced quite a few years ago and then he died a year later. Two of my sisters still live with her (one with her husband and baby!) I will not be like that.

I'll come up with something. I'm just stressed about it right now. I'm at the end of my rope and about to get hung. I called the bank and asked the loan officer to rattle WH cage about this months payment for my truck. But he isn't going to care, even though it is in both of our names. I don't want to let it get behind because they may be less likely to let me refinance once WH is off the loan. I guess I'll call and see if I can roll the next couple of payments onto the end of the loan again. WH will have to sign in agreement with that, though. I'm not sure he will.

I'm going to call my lawyer again this afternoon, and then tomorrow morning, and tomorrow afternoon, etc etc until he responds. Something has to be done.

Thanks for your input. I'll make it out of this...some days are just harder than others.

I wish I could do what you did. But it makes me want to hang onto those items more. He NEVER used that swing. He just knows I really like it and use it often, especially in the summer. It faces the mountains and I like to sit there early mornings, drink a cup of tea, and have some quiet time. Now he wants to take that from me too.

I just want him to leave me the he!! alone. Get on with his "happy" life and let me be.

Wildhorses.
Don't let him take any more from you.

Just say "no" to the swing. End of story.

He's only doing it to push your buttons anyway.

Make him PROVE it's his with copies of reciepts or something. Don't give it up if you don't want to. Him saying he remembers this that or the other doesn't mean jack.

I know it sucks to ask family for money. Anything you could sell?? Like... a log swing? Kidding!

Can't sell anything. We're both under a restraining order that prohibits us from destroying, selling, transferring, etc any possessions.

Maybe I'll run through his list of things again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I may be able to sell things for support of his children. Have to talk to my lawyer about that.

WildH,

You're right. He is doing this specifically to hurt you. Burn it before you give it to him. Don't have any more communication with him about any of this except through the Sharks. He will have no proof to back up his account of the transaction. You tried to play nice and like a little rabid yappy dog he bit your hand. Kick the little mongrel out of your yard.

One of the other items on his list was a "roll top desk". We don't own a roll top desk. I know what he is talking about, it is what I call the "bill desk" where I keep all the financial info, etc. It isn't a roll top, though, the front folds down to make a desk. Maybe I'll trade him the roll top desk for the "bill desk"? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

That's another item he didn't really care for when we bought it. Now he wants it.

I think he is looking at the pictures I gave him at Christmas and is being "reminded" of what items were in the house. One of the pictures I gave him was of DDs, my sisters, and I singing karoake. We were sitting on our bar stools. Now he wants the bar stools. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> He has updated items since his original list...I think they are coming from those pictures.

Another of the items on his list was "everything in the garages". This is bullchit. He doesn't even know what is one side of the garage. I have a bunch of horse tack, stock tank heaters, DDs bikes, sand bags for winter, etc in one side. Does he really think he is taking all that?...and that everything in "his" side of the garage stayed exactly the same as when he left it?

Maybe the snowmobile he wants so bad could fetch a few dollars for CS. Ask a Shark.

You're right, chrisner. I'm done except through the lawyers. I tried, that's all I can do.

I'd love to burn it before MOW (RBB-red butted baboon) sits her ugly red butt on it. That'd be trouble, though.

If he ends up with it, it'll just be a reminder of me and I don't think he is going to want that. Maybe some tiny little stickers on the seat? Or turn a load of termites loose on it?

You should have Photoshopped the Christmas pictures with Windsor Castle interior shots as the background.

"Ugh, and I want that purple crowny thing with all the jewels on it and the suit of armour in the corner and the 8' painting of Wellington. I always loved that painting of Wellington."

Title for the snowmobile is in his name. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> That's how much it was a gift to me. He wanted it so he bought it in the name of my Christmas gift so he could have one. That's how he works.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> hehehee

That's what I get for trying to be nice again. He was all busted up around Christmas. He had asked nicely for the pictures. And I gave him all of them. Kicked in the teeth again for being nice.