I have been married for 15 yrs. My husband came to me in Aug out of the blue and told me that "he wasnt happy, had doubts from the beginning of our marriage, felt he settled when he married me" etc.. When I pressed him as to why he wasnt happy he said that it upset him when our son and I got wet footprints on the floor in the bathroom so I immediately fixed that problem and he was upset that the dog dripped water after drinking out of her bowl.

I was suspicious there was another woman involved but he denied until I found out for sure in Oct. He claimed that he had feelings for her, she had feelings for him, he had never felt this way before, they had so much in common but when I asked what that was he couldnt explain it.

He said that he would try to "limit" his contact with her-she is a clint from work also married and yes I did tell her H-and he would try to get his priorities straight.

Well he never stopped the repeated cell phone calls to her, the secret meetings at Stabucks, the secret lunches and flowers and cards. Finally 3 weeks ago we had a conversation because of the repeated phone calls he was making to her and he decided that he couldnt (or wouldnt) treat me the way I deserve to be treated and he moved out. In the same conversation he also said that a girl had flirted with him the day before and he didnt flirt back but he wanted to and he saw a cute girl at the movie theatre.

I dont know where his head is at right now. Everyone says this OW will not leave her husband and her lifestyle ($6 million house etc) so I dont know if they are continuing on the side (before leaving he was still insisting that they have not had sex but have kissed) or if he is picking up on other girls now too. He is staying with a single guy and I know they go to bars together.

We have an 11 yo son that thought his dad walked on water and now every day I have to pick up the pieces. My H has called our son every day to talk but he needs more than a phone in dad. He has spent a couple afternoons with his dad and he has taken our son to see the house he is staying in. H calls it his house but son prefers to call it the house he is staying at.

I actually got my H to talk to SH on Thursday and steve wants us to fill out some questionaires and have an appt with him together next time but I have not talked to my H since he talked to steve so I have not been able to bring up the idea to him.

I am really struggling with the fact that my H and I are separated and I know its probably better-why would I want someone here that doesnt want to be and was hiding so much from me but its still so hard.

Thanks for the prayers-the old friends he had from church have all stopped calling him because he has put them off so much-he has totally stopped going to church and wants nothing to do with anyone from there.