Hi, many here are familiar with my story, well -as familiar as I am with it.

Anyway -- I do think that today may be THE day I finally catch him ! (or night, as the case may be) My WH (?) is an OTR truck driver, so lots of free time and time unaccounted for. He is prolly an expert at this stuff by now. Me, not so..

I do believe that he will be here very close to home later today, if not already. But, he just told me.... Carnation, I do not think I will be able to come home this weekend... a whole bunch of lame excuses on his part. Throughout his explanation I was nice as pie... also threw him off guard by saying that I would be babysitting tonight, as he knows I would not be driving around DFW looking for him or his truck with those precious babies with me... wrongooo !! I WILL be driving all around tonight to try, try, try to finally catch him at this and resolve it one way or another.

If I should find him, which I am pretty sure I can locate the truck, but if he is not in it (which he prolly will not be) then I am not sure as to what to do next. What to say -- how to say it... stay with the truck ALL weekend until she returns him.... what ???

Please give me some feedback on this as I really, really need to catch him if this is what is going on... I DO know that it has for a number of years in the past... but I was pretty sure it was over --- should find out today !!!

Thanks so much, Carnation

We;;. Carnation, that will be one heck of a way to spend NYE <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> , but you gotta do what you gotta do.

Do it intelligently, though. Can you establish a pattern (from fuel receipts/comp checks) of which truck stops are the most likely parking places for his truck? Do you know where he is supposed to be delivering a load and when?

Don't use your car to look for him. Rent a car if you have to. Do you have a friend who can go with you? Do you have a digital camera or camcorder? Take a cooler with snacks and drinks. You don't want to miss him because you stopped somewhere to eat.

If you find his truck and it's unlocked or you have a key, could you manage to hide a voice-activated recorder in it?

Do you think it's the same OW as before? Any chance of getting a PI at this late date to follow HER?

Anyway, good luck, and I hope your efforts bring you what you really want and need.

bring along a cam-corder
do NOT drink
do not have a confrontation

simply gather your indisputable proof
call him later when you are at a safe distance

these things can get out of control very quickly and unexpectedly

be careful

Pep

DFW is pretty big chere.....what makes you think you can spot that truck? If this is what you really want to do....why haven't you bought some kind of GPS to stick on that dang truck. I say....celebrate NYE with people you care about....instead of spending it driving around. THEN....do better planning. Get the GPS....and then you'll KNOW where to drive TO.

((((((((((((((((((carnation)))))))))))))))))))))))

I agree...Get undeniable proof (tape, photos, notes, etc.) and as hard as if may be avoid a confrontation and simply leave a letter on his truck windshield "letting him know the jig is up" and what you intend to do.

ditto this

Thank you so much for replying.

I doubt very much if I could enjoy myself thinking he was somewhere with her. But, thanks so much for reminding me of a cam corder, I do not have one but will try to get my daughter's. I do have a digital if need be... never thought of that... little frazzled here

If I do drive around, I would not drink - hardly ever drink anyway. Heck my Asti is still unopened from Christmas... need to be thinking clear anyway, or as clear in this situation as I can.

He is *supposed* to be taking a load to the terminal. About 40 miles away.. that will be my starting place and try a few truck stops between terminal and her house.

Our cell contracts are now up and I have been looking into Nextel - Family Locator.. that may work out...I doubt a gps would work on the semi because he already has one from work. I do believe the Family Locator should work... he will not know it is on his phone but I can check his location. Will def get on that this coming week....

Thank you so very much for giving me some ideas ~ and support.

Carnation

I just wanted y'all to know that I deceided to stay home this evening. Oddly enough, I can not even say why I didn't go looking. I guess that I just did not want to do that to myself.

My best gf called and we talked for hours, her way of getting my mind off of it. We both agreed that it would be a big waste of energy... sitting here by myself right now, not really sure that I did the wise thing - Lord knows I need/want to catch him IF he is still seeing her... but the Lord works in mysterious ways, and I guess He wanted me home tonight...

Does anyone know anything about a Family Locator or Mobile Locator for cells ? something like that sure would make it alot easier to track him.... if he had a normal truck or car, I would have slapped a gps on it years ago..... of course, not...

Thank you so much for your advice, concern and support.

Sincerely, Carnation