Hello everyone, Check out this email from I got from office girl this afternoon:

I hope you had a good New Years! Its going to be a good/busy year ahead (hopefully). Anyways, its kind of uncomfortable to bring this up but if you wouldn't mind reimbursing me for the plane tickets we booked, I would appreciate it. I have the code you will want to give Delta to get your credit ($225) when you go to fly next.

Let me know what you think,



I offered to give her that money awhile ago and then again recently, now all of a sudden she has the balls to ask for it. Don't get me wrong, it's not the money, it's the thought behind it. It's cold and heartless and you know I'm starting to see a whole new side of her that may have been there all along.

My response was: Hi, hope you had a nice new year as well. I leave you a check in your mailbox.

My question is #1) Why would she do this now? and 2) When a relationship ends, do you ever get the feeling that the person you thought you knew never existed?

From your Closure thread:




From your New Year's Wish thread:



Have you decided what you will start with to "treat yourself with care"?

If you don't know where to start, I'll bet that the regular posters in this forum would be able to give you some ideas.

Happy New Year to you Coughlin <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Let me see if I understand......You offered to give her the money - and you did so more than once. She asks for it. And you are upset by that? Why?

first off, i agree with xlurker. we don't want to continue your thots on this girl by continuing to talk about her!

and second, i see nothing wrong with her asking for the money or how she asked for it. i don't see anything underhanded or odd in her asking. i would have asked for the money back too, that is a lot of money.

stop looking so much into things and just let it go. you gave her the money, it is done, move on.

mlhb

I offered to give her that money awhile ago and then again recently, now all of a sudden she has the balls to ask for it. Don't get me wrong, it's not the money, it's the thought behind it. It's cold and heartless and you know I'm starting to see a whole new side of her that may have been there all along.

What is ballsy about asking for HER money?

What is cold and heartless about it? Is it because you are no longing seeing her and that makes it cold?

Why would a man years her senior need her to pay for tickets anyway? She might have been keeping you on a string until she could get her money back too.

When people no longer see each other, the one that is owed money can generally kiss it goodbye because of the attitude that you are taking.

This is just another part that convinces me that you are not relationship savvy. Not only do you owe her money, but because she is no longer wanting to have any interaction with you, you don't want to REPAY what you owe her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

This is the kind of classless stuff that shows up on Judge Judy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

committed

I don't care about the money and it really isn't a lot of money from both of our perspectives. She turned me down when I wrote her a check for it in the past and now she has decided that she wants it. Maybe I'm looking into it. Just seems strange to me. I think she's bitter.

I don't care about the money and it really isn't a lot of money from both of our perspectives. She turned me down when I wrote her a check for it in the past and now she has decided that she wants it. Maybe I'm looking into it. Just seems strange to me. I think she's bitter.

Then why won't you give her the money? It is HERS afterall. YOU are the bitter one or you would give HER money to her. What's to look into?

She wants her money....why do you want to keep her money? What kind of man would keep her money?

Evaluate yourself coughlin...WHY?

committed

i think he did leave her the money in her box he said committed... if i read his post right.

mlhb

mlb,

Yes, I see that now...he said he will leave it in her mailbox.

How did I miss that when I read the original post....gots to get some new eyes I guess. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Sorry....

committed

Uh-ohhhh! Looks like the "check is in the mail!".... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Well, let this be a lesson to you. Book your own airline tickets or pay immediately.

As to why now? That’s obvious. She wants closure which can’t happen while there’s this transaction between you two, or she overspent on Christmas.