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Re: Broken Hearted - Confused and Lost
BrokenHeartedGuy #1805249 02/05/07 02:22 AM
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Classic text book response from her. Keep the faith!

Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
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Re: Broken Hearted - Confused and Lost
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I would stay on top of what the principal does about it. Likely he/she will follow the path of least resistance - give them a good scolding. If that is the case, what are the rules regarding affairs in the school? Can the school board be of help? The local newspaper? If parents knew their children were being influenced by adulterers, many would not be happy about it and demand a firing. Teachers are supposed to be role models. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

Okay, at face value, your WW says your M is over. At face value, you have nothing to lose. Flame them. In reality, it is the only chance you have to save your M and your family.

When it comes to exposure, the bloodier, the better. Give them no place to hide.
Re: Broken Hearted - Confused and Lost
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She was really angry on Friday. Told me to forget all hopes of her coming back, even if the affair breaks up.

They all say that. Let me guess, "she was going to work on the marriage, but now shes not," right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> They all say that and none ever follow through. She is the crack addict who just had her pipe taken frm her. The ONLY hope of saving your marriage is to take her crack pipe away so she can sober up. She will be mad that you took it, but she will get over it. Your marriage can survive her temporary anger, it can't survive her affair.

So, just hang in there and don't allow her to bait you into a fight and don't allow her to guilt you. If she can manipulate into feeling guilty, she will use it as a weapon against you.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Broken Hearted - Confused and Lost
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Latest update, school principal says she has spoken to them and gave OM till end of year to leave school. She wants to differentiate personal matters like this from professional. That is a very long time.

As for the upcoming valentines day ... I was thinking of send a bouquet of roses to her school. Any thoughts?

BH - me (age 36) WW (age 36) Married for almost 11 years Two Sons - 9 and 6 years Heart Broken on Nov 19, 2006
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