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I forgot he did regress once... once that you discovered it is highly likely that he has been hiding his continued porn use very well go to the "focus on the family" web site & read about how hard it is for a man to stop this habit without help they have some books on the subject you might consider ordering Pep
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I will check the site out pep. Thanks.
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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you are welcome hunny
keep your chin up
this is not easy stuff
but it is the art of living well you & your H are currently working on
it's worth it
Pep
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Working on opposite schedules is a killer for a marriage. As your children grow, I hope you can change that. Yeah its a killer most of the time. I am trying to decide if I should just get me a day job.. Of coarse comes needing to make sure its a good enough job to pay for childcare!! I think as for the OC I did great in giving her to a family that wasnt able to bare children. H and I did a wonderful thing. Oh though I did forget to say when I had my A and left and the OM knew I was with child. He did want me to abort the child When I moved out I left all ties behind mean. I mean I cut the OM out I didnt even tell him anything of the OC since he and his family wanted to abort. I admire my H for taking on me during the OC pregnancy.
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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Just figured I would add to this post...
Last night was night one of two I am home this week. We talked... About a bit of everthing. It was nice. We didnt accuse each other, didnt name call, no fighting just talking... I liked that...
I asked him if he didnt mind me working like 2 or 3 day shift then 2 or 3 night shifts if I can get promoted at work. H said if its what i want and if the family will see me more then yes. So I will talk to my manager the next time I see her... So far our MC appt is still set for Tuesday afternoon... If we dont like her I have another lined up already as well... Hey you never know now a days...
And pep if you are reading this... I shared a small kiss with him today...
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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Today is a down day...
I work tonight..ick...asides from taht I woke up with more questions..Like how it happiend> What took place...details basically like he did about my A... He answered them. And cried...and hugged...and it doesnt help much that he is in a down day as well but we are taking it as it comes...
Married 1996 4 wonderful children 16, 13 *OC*, 10, 7 FWW 30's FWH 30's My dday 1-2007 he came clean to me My story New beginings
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There will be lots of ups and downs getting through all this. But it is very good that you are talking together, no matter how much it hurts. That is the path to recovery.
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