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Good, now go to your local bookstore, read up on some sex books, try some new techniques, and WOW him!! Initiate and show him you are a sexual being. Trust me, the more you do this, he'll be like OW who?
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Really... thanks for that encouragement. I've been wondering if I should even be going there with everything such a dang mess. But, for the past week, I've truly freaked him out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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Good, she will be the one love busting him now. How could he cheat on her with you? Ha, ha, ha! Because he doesn't have a history with her, her complaints will get old FAST. What you are doing is working. Just keep turning it up a notch. When he is hot and heavy ask him what he wants, and do it (of course unless it involves the rear or something else that you aren't willing to do). Give him all that he can handle. The OW can't compete with you!
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Cool! Was it you who spoke to the OW mama??
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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My husband called me up and interrogated me on what I did and didn't tell OWM and how I am supposed to NEVER talk to her again about anything. What was your response?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Good, good! Exposure is really working! The angrier and more desparate they are, the more effective exposure is. Just lay low and try not to get drug into any arguments. Just stay detached and say stuff like, "I only want to save the M." They're always pissed when their little fantasy world come crumbling down. It will blow over in a week.
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Olive! I am DAMN PROUD of you! You go, girl!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Thanks for the support!!! At this point WH and OW are talking non-stop to each other and acting like victims of these "crazy people's" actions. WH is really scared of being embarrassed at work. Part of WH is drawing closer to OW wanting to protect her and part of him is hating it.
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One other thing.. OW and WH are acting as if everything is going to just continue on as it has been.. They can still see each in back alleys.. In fact, they can even be seen in public "as friends". WH is talking as if this changes nothing in their relationship. Do they always talk crap like that?
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Olive, this may not kill the affair, but it will cause great conflict in it. It will take all the fun out of the fantasy. So, just stand by and do your best Plan A for awhile and then you will likely have to go into Plan B pretty soon here. But we have lot of time. In the meantime, keep stirring up trouble wherever you can! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> What does she do at work? Any exposure opportunities there?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes! This raises the ante of his stinky affair immensely! I doubt he wanted all this trouble. What does your H do? Would it help to expose him at work?
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Yes, that is good. He'll decide she isn't worth your while. Is there any way that OW's mother, father, and brother will call your WH and tell him off personally? I would let them have his number if they don't already have it.
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Anyway, they have really been laying on the guilt in a big way. OW and WH are completely in denial that her families reaction could be their fault. Excuses, excuses, excuses.. it is all soooo strange... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />
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How are you finding all this out, Olive?
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Just found out that OWM want to go to WH work and lay into him but she can't figure out where he works so she will probably end up at our house... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Well, you know where he works, so maybe you could point her in the right direction. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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