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I'm the one who had the affair. My wife moved out the day after I told her. Before I ended the affiar the wife filed for divorce. She still wants to work things out, but will not stop the divorce. Her family is pushing her to continue it. I have completely cut off every possible means of communication with the other women. Offered the wife to move. Have put in notice at work even though the other women no longer works in the same location as me. I get shut down every time I ask to see the wife alone to talk and work on things. The wife continues to say she wants to work things out and I believe her. Her family, which she has taken the kids and moved in with is upset everytime she talks to me. I have not contacted the other women for over a month. I don't know how long I can keep beating my head against a wall with my wife since she "doesn't want to upset her support system" her family. Who is pushing her to get away from me and not try to work things out. Whenever I do get time with her even an hour or two when I go see the kids things are good as long as she is not around her family. If I'm not around her for a few days because of work, natural disasters(you laugh I finaly got power back yesterday) etc. she starts pushing me away again. What can I do to help to get her to meet my needs when she won't let me meet hers because her family gets mad when we are trying to work things out? I don't want to run to anybody but my wife ever again.
I have destroyed my world through my own ignorance. Now I hope that I am given the chance to try to rebuild it.
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Welcome Odd Duck,
You are to be commended for your courage and although you may be in the minority, you've come to the right place.
I'm new here, too....but our situation has changed in only a week. You do need a plan but it might be good to re-post your request on the Infidelity General Questions II board to generate the most suggestions.
If you've already re-posted, in the meantime you can check out the bulletin board acronyms at the top of the topic lists. I did not do this and spent alot of time trying to guess what folks were chatting about.
Best wishes as you plan your strategy.
Ace
FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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