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Heard a few songs yesterday at the gym yesterday...as you guys know, I am still in the midst of a struggle with my xwh..the wistress is doing just as everybody said...she is waffling..despite telling her family of darth's cruelty and his still cheating...I can't testify against darth without getting HER testimony...I have to have it as first hand witness...so until she gives up the stupid fantasy they created...it IS OVER...she said so herself and I have her venomous words for the man she fought so hard to break up my marriage for...even getting pregnant over to end my family...all for nothing basically...my M ended for no REAL REASON..other than my xh wants cake and is disturbed. I have it all...on tape..on record..and its legal 2 do so.
Anyhow, this is the song..it is for you.
Whether you're in Plan A, Plan B, or plan D, or as I am in "Plan EXorcise Darth" this song is for you....
Its an oldie but goodie...Pat Benatar's Invincible
[color:"blue"] [/color] This bloody road remains a mystery This sudden darkness fills the air What are we waiting for? Wont anybody help us? What are we waiting for? We cant afford to be innocent Stand up and face the enemy Its a do or die situation We will be invincible
This shattered dream you cannot justify Were gonna scream until were satisified What are we running for? Weve got the right to be angry What are we running for? When theres no where we can run to anymore
We cant afford to be innocent Stand up and face the enemy Its a do or die situation We will be invincible And with the power of conviction There is no sacrifice Its a do or die situation We will be invincible
Wont anybody help us? What are we running for? When theres no where, no where we can run to anymore
We cant afford to be innocent Stand up and face the enemy Its a do or die situation We will be invincible And with the power of conviction There is no sacrifice Its a do or die situation We will be invincible
Ok...You gotta stand up. Don't take this lying down. Doing nothing accomplishes nothing. It's time to gain respect. And even though now I could care less if my wxh respects me at all or not, It is for ME and for my CHILD...get tough. Get smart. Do not be afraid. If you do your part...cover each base...LOOK CAREFULLY at your sitch...can it be fixed? Not? Hope? REAL hope for a changed M? If it can or not...you do all you can. You work every angle. You take the WS mentality DOWN. YOU put this on YOUR terms. YOU fight for your precious kids and their well being and for not being around lying immoral cheaters who TEACH THAT FAMILIES ARE NOT FOREVER...JUST UNTIL YOU FEEL LIKE HAVING SOMEBODY WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY FOR THE MOMENT AROUND.
Sorry I am angry.
I remember just about this time 3 years ago..the ink was barely dry on my D papers...and I had to see Darth at his office for a financial issue (having him resolve something he did..one of the millions of things he did)...I remember saying to him and we were both crying..."You'd better make sure you're dam#ed sure happy. You'd best make this all worth what you did to your REAL family over this. You'd better stay with her forever...good and bad. You'd best remember the heyall you put your son through before you put your unborn baby through it too. Make this destruction worth it for you. Make it worth it ok?"
He was crying and crying and so was I. I remember yelling at him the last part...ds was upstairs in another section of the large building playing and didn't hear us...but the secretaries were tearing up (some of them were my friends) and his business partner was in the back with his head down listening to it too. And today? 3 years later I know that it all happened because Darth wanted to live for the moment and now he's an unrecognizeable person to me. A monster. He never changed. Some of them just get worse. Some become prince or princess charming and repent and turn away from their ways. He did not choose to do so. Basically all this...hearing just monday of this week from his Affair Wifey that she has n't loved him in almost 2 years now...that they hate each other...that both of them have asked the other to leave...well that bitter pill has not gone down my throat well. It's left me angry and choking and sometimes filled with tears...
My son is still stuck around this crap when he sees his father. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
For nothing...all of it happened because he can't control himself and the anger he turned inward..the real frustration that he RUINED HIS LIFE AND THE FAMILY HE ONCE HAD THAT WAS HAPPY...WAS GOOD...WAS FOR NOTHING..his self hate and his pain now has made him become the monster he is today..he is 100x worse now than when he was in his worst wayward mode with me. This is so sad.
But listen to that darn song...fight. Stand up to the enemy. Whatever, whoever it is. Stand tall with faith and dignity and couarge. I pray for you all. God bless.
So fight for the issues that are relelvant, moral, and right. Stand up.
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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you know when your down and you think its all lost someone shines a light in your face and asks you if your alright if you can go another mile, give it one more try... and you just did that for me
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and, most importantly, TURN EVERYTHING OVER TO GOD! lay it all in his hands and you will be amazed what will happen. stand with your head held high and your eyes on god. when you have to face your giants, ie, waywards, affair partners, court systems, etc, DO NOT FOCUS on the giants, focus on god. you will never go wrong.
mlhb
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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Hey Peach--
Here's some more--I like this one, too.
It's called "Stand in the Rain" by Superchick
She never slows down She doesn’t know why but she knows that When she’s all alone it feels like its all coming down
She won’t turn around The shadows are long and she fears If she cries that first tear, the tears will not stop raining down
So stand in the rain Stand your ground Stand up when it’s all crashing down You stand through the pain You won’t drown And one day what’s lost can be found You stand in the rain
She won’t make a sound Alone in this fight with herself And the fears whispering if she stands she’ll fall down
She wants to be found The only way out is through everything She’s running from, wants to give up and lie down
So stand in the rain Stand your ground Stand up when it’s all crashing down You stand through the pain You won’t drown And one day what’s lost can be found You stand in the rain
Hang in there. I'm still thinking of you and praying for you and your son. Intexas
BW-me, 29 XH, 29 3 sons-now 6,4,2 Divorce final--Sept. 27, 2006.
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