Everything that everyone said was happening: Was happening.
Everything that everyone said she would say: Has been said.

One of the first outings she had with this new group of friends was a divorce party for one of the male co-workers. She invited me to come with her, I declined. I don't think divorce is a joyous occasion - at all. The first impression of these new friends was made for me, and after one more declined invitation to go out drinking with them and my wife I never received another.

This is early September 2006, and we both (my wife and I) found ourselves spending less and less time together when at home. I was pre-occupied with hobbies because I (for once) preferred a quiet and cheaper (!) life at home until better financial times came. She began to not come home after her two school nights a week - at first it was 2 hrs late, then later. She got out of school at 9:30 or so, and began to come home at 1, 2, 4 in the morning. On two of these occasions, she smelled like alcohol. This was very unlike her, as she was not a drinker at all. On one occasion, she came home at 5 in the morning - still drunk.

She was always vague about who she was with, she seemed to skirt the issue and gave vague references that she was with the clique of friends from her work. I never pressed, I trust(ed) her. I was upset, of course, and expressed that to her. I was worried about her safety first. Later, my spouse would tell me that it was late Sept that she began to seriously prepare herself for leaving me. At this time, we had probably had sex once or twice in the since July return from vacation. We would not have sex again until late December.

In October, her mother made a surprise appearance at our home. My mother-in-law flew in from out of state and stayed with us. During this time, my mother-in-law approached us together and asked me about getting a second job. Later, I would find out that the mom-in-law flew out to talk my spouse out of leaving me, and the advice mother gave to her was "have no doubts before you do". It was at this time that my wife began to quit paying the bills and depositing her checks. As the months went on, there would be fights over bills not being paid that I had to pay for out of mortgage money. As a result, we fell behind for the first time. My salary paid half the bills, her salary paid the other half. (Actually closer to a 60/40 split). In Oct and Nov numerous utilities were shut off, and I had to pay extraordinate amounts to get them turned back on.