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It has been every month that I have intercepted/stumbled across communications/connections that they have had. And the last one was big one, since then I have moved out. It's epically hard because of the kids but I plan on seeing them everyday. If you need anything or have questions just call or I can stop by.
This is the email that i just received from the OW husband...My husband swears that he has not done anything and if even call the OW husband but he just told him to ****** off...What should i do?
BS-27(Me)
WS-29
D-Day-April 10 2006
stay at home mom
2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months)
NC-April 26 2006
D-day 2 2/3/2007
d-day 3 2/27/2007
d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant)
"A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."
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Believe the OW H.
Tell your H that you expect nothing but total honesty. Let him know that you will get to the truth and it will be better coming from him.
If he still denies... ask him if he is willing to sign a post nuptual agreement giving you all the family assets and support in the event of another affair. If he says "yes" then follow through with having the paperwork drawn up immediately.
What does your gut tell you to do as far as this most likely renewed or continued contact?
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If your husband is a WH (having an affair), then he will lie to you (and you aren't in recovery). He will also be really angry about the OWH communicating with you, because it will threaten the affair. I don't think you should be afraid to talk to OWH. If the affair is still going on, you want to know.
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SNR,
Your sitch seems to be never ending!!
""If you need anything or have questions just call or I can stop by.""
How do you feel about this? You may wish to leave no stone unturned. If he does has evidence that there is ongoing contact you should know about it, correct? I mean, shoot, he just moved out!! ""And the last one was big one, since then I have moved out.""
For your peace of mind....and to find out who is telling the truth and who is not...I think you need to find out what the ""big one"" is.
""have questions just call or I can stop by. ""
OK, now "stopping by" threw up a big red flag. You could have him forward whatever "big one" info he has....but stopping by sounds risky.
Lonely, angry, BH looking for solace from/with BW?????
IMHO
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CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!
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SNR, I think you should call him. Don't invite him over as he was not very eager to help you earlier.
Have him forward you whatever proof he has.
Please call Dr. Harley. If you can't afford to call Steve for an appointment, call the radio show.
If you find out there is still contact, it might very well be time for plan B. I do wish you would call the Harley's for some guidance.
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