MEDC,
If I spoke with someone who believed adultery was okay...I'd know their thoughts were their own...their opinion. Same of pedophilia...and I would suspect neither had any experience in either one and most likely question either person (or the same), if they had any experience in adultery or pedophilia...
However, twisting the Golden Rule does it a disservice...believing others should live as you do...meaning, they should be told because you would want to be told...isn't healthy. It's subjective. It's not a principle...it's a desire.
Taking it to the level where it's universal...and finding where the cleans lines are for all humans...that's what I see you reaching for...get there not under your own perceptions...get there from truth.
The principle you are striving for breaks down (because of your subjective reasoning) when applied to "Henry said you were fat." If you apply your process, then you may not want to be told what Henry thinks, necessarily, would you? Nor would you tell Henry you think he smells funny...because he smells funny to you. Your higher principle at work, which I believe you want to operate from, is that the truth isn't in there...two opinions. Your truth and his truth, separately.
Not because you want or don't want to know.
And to your reactivity with CN...two of my sons are technically ******...rather, they were, until my DH adopted them. I own that...my choice. I brought them into this world. Dealing with our what triggers us is a signal...does not profit us to make others not say it...that's stopping truth. Better still to know and own than to use our time trying to control others, when we know we cannot.
Delve into why this triggers you...deal with our own truths...get to our highest honesty...and be free, MEDC.
You went to a level so far into your inner child that you posted you wanted to do physical harm to another human. Know that. Not right or wrong...to know and be known...for who we really are...so we can grow, learn, share and ripple.
Not attack a human physically when we feel pain emotionally. Then we miss our signals...which is what anger and fear are...which isn't me staying level-headed...staying real. Straight from my heart to others'...going soul to soul.
We all learn from everything...I didn't see a response from CN to me. I feel left out.
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I know CN isn't one post or three...wish I'd seen them though...
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I know that in reconciling, there's more knowledge, growth and reality than in avoiding conflict.
And when we feel attacked here...STATE it. You got what I was saying, MEDC, and you began stating...take it to the next step...get to why you feel what you feel...and then further...all the way back to the belief which gave you the anger, the resentment, and the permission to attack back when you felt attacked.
I love MB.
LA
P.S. Oh, Jerry--think superglue, underwear...when will men learn that knives and bats are passe?
