Shakespear?

My all time favorite...the hokey pokey...what about on ice? That would be different...right between Minnie and Mickey...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Chicken wing on ice <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> ...please don't play with your food tonight...especially if it has sauce on it....

well, you know, MAYBE YOU NEED to play with your food! Relax and loosen up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

No, seriously, I hope that you have a great time...enjoy the view if it's hooties...

Right. I can see BC downing 10 beers and watching a chicken wing reciting Marc Antony’s soliloquy from Julius Caesar, "We come to eat some chikin not praise it".

oh, cHRIS, YOU ARE SO awesome MAN!

That was fabulous!

"too eat or not to Eat! that is the question" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I wonder how many Marriages page 27 on my thread is gonna save?

I'm thinking at least 30.

My thread had probably killed more marriages then that.

Wow! We better hurry on to page 28 then and do some more good for the world talking about gas grills, chicken wings, Shakespeare, Disney on Ice and beer (on ice).

We're on page 28 now. So time for some more deep philisophical thoughts.

Wing night was good. I ate more than I wanted to, but some of that was celery with blue cheese which is almost healthy. Didn't drink too much. Didn't stay out too late. Kinda sorta flirted with the little blond waiting on us and she kinda sorta reciprocated. She put her hand on my back for a minute when she came to pick up the ticket. That's the most action I've gotten in 5 months. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Made it home for 9:30. DS was still up and playing at the neighbors. Brought him home, gave him some milk, and he was gone. Sleeping before 10.

So I had a great time. I needed that SO bad.

Hope everybody's doin alright.

STBX Completely Caved!!

We had a Hearing Officer Conference today. We never even got called in. Her A gave in to everything.

Here's the big stuff:

Supervised visitation will continue until Jun1.

STBX will continue counseling until the COUNSELOR feels she is OK to stop. (this is court ordered)

After Jun1 I will be Primary Domicilary Parent giving STBX liberal visitation. Meaning there will be NO schedule. We can decide amongst ourselves, but I reserve the right to pull the plug if something goes wrong with STBX.

I didn't ask for any real CS. I just wanted $200 a month to help pay DC. I got that and b/c she isn't paying enough CS I get the tax exemption every year.

She has to continue to provide DS's medical insurance also.

I think that's the big stuff.

I am very relieved. I knew it was going to be alright b/c she called me this morning scared. We talked about what I wanted and she agreed to it then, so she just relayed that to her A and he went with it.

We still have community property to deal with, which we also have already agreed upon, but it looks like there won't be a RULE by the judge. The A's will submit today's paper work for the judge to sign and that's it. Now we just wait our year and it's all over.

We talked before we left and I reiterated to her that this wasn't what I wanted. She said she knew it wasn't. I went ahead and asked her if she could say now that it was over for us. She said all she could say is I don't know. I said that's all I can say too. So we hugged and she was gone.

Anybody want to guess where she was going?

Frickin Jazz Fest.

She saw DS 3.5 hours last week and about 2.5 this week. Last weekend she went to a concert and probably Festival International.
Now she's going to Jazz Fest and won't be seeing him at all this weekend.

Any body want to challenge my decisions?

Do I STILL love her? Yes

at least I stand up for myself.

This is an example of loving someone while at the same time leaving them to self destruct and holding them accountable.

Great job BC. I have custody of our two year old son and don't regret holding her accountable one minute. I gave her every chance and she chose herself above all else, unacceptable for a parent.

Great job!!!!

Boy, your WW sure is a mess. At least she no longer displays the worst and most unbearable trait of most WWs - complete and unabashed self-entitlement. She has been humbled. That is the hardest part. Maybe she'll start coming around in other areas as well.

GOOD FOR YOU! Congrads with DS!

I hope that you enjoy your weekend!

That is exactly what I am doing. I can't stop loving her and I really don't want to, but I have to let her go right now.

She's gonna have to figure it out on her own now. If she ever comes around who know's what could happen. My brother went throught this and 5 years later he remarried his Ex and they now have their second child together.

Jim,
I can't figure out if she's been humbled or if this is what she wanted and had to put up the intial fight to save face.

I'm sure it's both.


I tell you one thing that felt good though. Both A's were impressed with the way I've handled all of this. From day one I made it clear I was doing this in the best interest of DS and my demeanor and actions stayed true to that. My A said she's never seen anything like it and that's what made the case a slam dunk. STBX's A had nothing on me. NOTHING.

My A told me the other A recognized STBX's problems and thought I was being extremely fair.

So to everyone else going through this. Don't let it get personal. It's strictly business in the best interest of all parties involved. Make that clear and let your demeanor and actions back it up and you WILL be noticed.



On a another note. I got a call from my life long friend/brother across the street. Him and my brother and Rin's mechanic and a few other guys put together a night in the swamp for me. We're all going to life long friend's camp Sat night and my Mom is watching DS.

It couldn't have come at a better time. I promise NO alligators will be harmed this weekend. Some may require counceling. Here's the event list.

Beer, fishing, beer, BBQ, beer, cards, beer, night time activities involving alligators(secret sport you'll never find out about), beer, maybe some sleep, coffee, coffee, coffee, fishing, clean up, nap, go home.

So everybody have a great weekend

I know I will <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Enjoy the weekend, BC. I'm happy to hear your good news.

I wonder if the reason WW isn't spending time with DS is guilt and shame?

Great job this week BC!

Have a nice time in the swamp (?)

It sounds a little like the beginning of the old movie Southern Comfort.

Hope the Guard is not on maneuvers.

BC,

Have a great weekend.

There are alligators in Louisiana!!!!!

Still

BC-
Have a wonderful weekend! You deserve it!

I only wonder, what DO you do to alligators there? It sounds kind of suspect....

LOL! You are doing WONDERFUL with your DS, I know it is hard to be a single parent, hang in there! Keep it up, and enjoy yourself too!

Sadmo

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> BBQ them...fry them...grill them...LMAO...just the tails...the meat...

Make a stew...You know Forrest GUmp... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Shrimp stem, shrimp gumbo, shrimp.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

The camp's like Vegas. If you want to know what we do to alligators at the camp, then you have to come to the camp.

I'll give you some advice. DO NOT be the first person to fall asleep at the camp. That's one way to find out what we do with alligators at the camp.

you guys are crackin me up!

My favorite is alligator sauce piquant
mmmmmmmmmm


I'm very tired. I'll post about the weekend tomorrow.

goodnight