S40:
We are not ignoring you, we just don't want to admit that we are past 40. LOL
IF the A is over and NC is established, THEN your WW can begin the process of withdrawal. Until then, all bets are off.
Really.
But you can do the right things as well.
No lovebusters.
Own up to your Lies (really not, but humor her) about talking to OMW. You have that right to talk to OMW, and discuss what WW is doing with her H. In order to END her A. Tell her what you discussed with OMW. Be honest. Can't hurt. Tell her that you never want to talk to OMW again. And if WW doesn't talk to OM, you will never need to speak with OMW again.
Of course she is taking all the pain out on you. Who else does she have? And if you do take the abuse, and indicate to her that you will not act in the same ways you did for 15 years, then she will notice that. And slowy, surely, the venom will disappear. The anger too. Well, her's will, yours will have to be dealt with.
Do you want her back?
If the answer is yes, then you have to make it happen.
So, I have asked you three times about what you think your top 3 EN's are, and what you think your WW's top 3 EN's are.
And you have not answered that.
Have you bought, borrowed or stolen, HNHN and/or SAA?
Give some answers to the following:
I love my Wife because she was......
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I will love my wife in the future, because she will:
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And I asked you this, with your response:
Q: Have you ever ridden a white stallion horse? Could you?
A: odd question, never have, but yes I could Thank You.
Why would you consider it odd?
If you thought you could do ONE THING, that would blow your WW away and make her fall back in love with you, embarrassment be darned, what would it be?
If I rode up with a white charger and swept my BS on to the back of the horse and rode around town for an hour, she would just die in my arms. Her Love Bank would just explode. Killing her instantly. LOL.
So, what would you do?
Today may not be the day to do it. Tommorrow either. But what about two months from now?
I would have loved to propose to my wife that way. Didn't have the cash at that time. But, we need to, as husbands and lovers, prove our love in some outlandish way for our Wives on occasion. It can be a simple as unexpected flowers, or as elaborate as a White Charger.
It's got to be about you and her to be really successful. Did you ever see the move "Hitch"? Break the mold, step out, and catch the eye of the woman you want.
And if you read all of the above and thought, "Why the he!! would I do anything like that for this lying, cheating woman?"
Then you need to ask yourself:
Do you want her back?
Because it is up to you to do the work.
OK?