First let me say that I am knew to this board, and I appolagize in advance for possibly posting wrong area, or other such forum boo boo's.
I recenlty discover that my wife was hiding a secret. Let me first state that she has not had a phyisical relationship with this man to the best of my knowledge. Of course she says she hasnt also. Though her credibilty is shotty at best right now.
I discocered some chat logs that she had with a male co-worker. I had my suspisions all long. He was saying inapropriatte things to my wife, and although she didnt go alonf with what he was saying she didnt stop him, but instead changed the subject and or ignored the statements.
However later in the chat she asked him how to delete cookies. Of course she wasnt able to.
I had asked her many time previous to this caht log discovery, if there was something going on between them. She always told me I was crazy, but I trust my gut.
When she was confronted with evidence she couldnt deny ( chat logs, phnoe calls) she confessed. She told me that this male had told her on several occasions, that he liked her, also asking if she were single would she go out with him. She told him yes. She claims that she told him that she was happily married, but she also continued this relationship with him, admittingly flirting in a sexual manner with him.
My problem with the whole thing is more on the honesty issue. I asked point blank about there relationship, ans she lied. She now says she is glad that I know. We are moving forward, and she has quit the job.
I guess I am just looking for some objective opinions, and or advice.
I love her dearly, we have been married for 6 years and have 2 lovely children, that I couldnt even dream of messing this up for.
[color:"blue"] Would love the hear from the ladies on this one too.[/color]
Please help!?