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Alrighty, well here is probably the final update on everything that is going on right now. I say final because my H's F's airfare has been purchased. Well this has completely done a 180 and I didn't expect things to go this way thats for sure! I was talking to my mom who said my MIL had been on the computer all morning looking for good airfare deals for him to fly down here. I figured I'd be nice and call my MIL and she was just drained but seriously who sits in front of a computer that long, my eyes would be going wacky! Anyways, in a matter of say 20 minutes I found a really good deal from his place to Atlanta. Then my MIL turns around and asks me well is that flight from LAX to ATL or LAX to PIT. I said to our place (ATL) So again i look for a flight from LAX to PIT and i found a really good deal for it being quite las minute travel. However I couldn't figure out why he was flying into Pittsburgh until she told me that he is driving down with my parents!!! I was like alright whatever and didn't give it a thought at the time. So as of now he is flying into PIT she is picking him up at the airport and he is driving with my parents, my brother in law and my MIL. Also while on the phone she asked me to look in the phone book to get numbers of hotels because my MIL and him are getting a hotel room together and I seriously just went silent on the phone and she is like hello? I'm like o I'm here. So they are leaving next Thursday to start to drive and should be here on Friday my H leaves on the 11th and it'll take about 2-3 days to put my things in storage. So we will be driving my two cars up and my fathers truck with things I'm taking back that aren't going in the storage place. The kicker on my H's F driving down is my MIL DID NOT discuss this with my parents at all....seriously when I told my mom I thought she fell flat on her butt. She was in total shock and awe but she said it was fine. So my H's F leaves PIT on the 18th, so if we get back to PIT on say the 14th that leaves 4 days. Well I'm like well what the heck is he going be doing in town for that long. My MIL admitted to me on the phone that coming down to GA was for my husband but when we get back home its for them. Now I can't tell my MIL what she can do or can't do in her own home its her business but it just seriously brings disgust to me. They tell each other they love each other and I'm just fed up and wish this never came about. When I told my H after he got home last night he was pi$$ed to the fact that my MIL didn't tell my parents that he was riding down, and when i told him they are going back to PA together he was ready to call his mom and tell her off. Then he said if she ups and sells her house to go and live with my F who didn't even bother to give a sh*t about me while I was growing up im disowning her. He is very upset about the whole thing now, I think mainly them staying in town together. I don't think I will be around her that much while he is around. Don't get me wrong he is a very nice man but to do something like this and still be married is sick, i feel like im aiding them its terrible but now i can't do anything about it because airfare has been bought and everything. If i would have known this before i started looking for airfare I wouldn't have helped and she'd still be sitting in front of her computer! So thats how things have turned out, I don't know if this is good or bad!
On a good note, our baby is due Oct 6 and my husband will be able to come home! We found out where in Iraq he is going to and its not Baghdad he won't even be going in the city <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> So that makes me feel a little better, not great but at least I know where he'll be. He'll be about 50 MI out of Baghdad. So let me know what ya think! It just turns your stomach......
BS 24
FWH 24
M- 3years
Together 7 years
DS 4
DD 1
D-Day 6/27/05
NC- 6/28/05
Exposed A 7/1/05
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Oneday,
Well, you are right that you can't tell MIL what to do in her own home, but your parents can also set their foot down. I mean, to just assume it would be ok for F to join them on the drive? Is it all in your parent's vehicle? They can tell them both that they need to find alternate trasportation to GA. But, on the other hand, you don't want this time to be dark with arguments either. I say talk to your parents, make certain they are at least somewhat ok with this. Suck up the frustration and enjoy the time left with Hubby. Maybe even set the rules straight that you don't want to see anything going on between the two, meaning, no hand holding, kissing, "i love you's", none of that, because you don't agree with their relationship, you won't support it in any way shape or form, and if they have a problem with that, then that's their own problem. You and your H can be respectful about it, with out stooping to their level.
Congrats again on the baby, and that your H will be there for the birth! How exciting! I'm also happy for you that H will be in a safer area than Baghdad. Good luck, and don't be a stranger either. Pop in every once in a while. Safe travels.
Tigger me~BS & WS~38~~h~BS & WS~37 my d-days~7/92, 1/96, 7/00, 9/07 h's d-days~7/11/00 & 2 weeks later 3 COM, 1 OC(mine)
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