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Will do.. I should have started chatting here when I found the place, would have avoided a lot of mistakes.! I now see I can't handle this all by myself, and I am the type that will jump when I "think" I have enough proof. Problem is, once she's told her story, she's very good at keeping details to a minimum so she doesn't get too deep. Problem for her is, it's gone on so long that now she's lying to cover lies, and I can catch those (excelent memory)...
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***note: don't tell your WW about this place (MB). This is your place for help and if she finds out about it then it will make it MUCH harder for you to recover.*** Just for my info, how would her knowing about this site make it harder for me to recover?
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Just for my info, how would her knowing about this site make it harder for me to recover? once she has forever ended her affair and is onboard for recovery ... bring her here ... we will reach out to her and assist until then, she may read about some of your secret affair busting plans .... this will make your Plan A & B watered down .... stuff like exposure to OM's wife must come out of nowhere Pep
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I'm sitting here by myself,, thinking about how much I need her... This is tuff...
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supposedley out with friends....
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supposedley out with friends.... Are you having her tailed by the PI?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She just came home (earlier then expected)... Think she's in guilt stage again,, certainly seemed that way tonight... Here, but not here...
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You need to find out where she is going and with whom.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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wanted my attention, but still kind of detached.. She just went to bed,, didn't touch me, didn't even kiss me goodnight... but wanted to be here.. need help decphiring the fog...
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Can you follow her, have her followed, or put a GPS on her car? I am not suggesting you ask her.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'm waiting for what the PI reports back tomorrow...
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Ok, got name and address, waiting on background check. Brother of someone she works with, not sure if he works there also but possible. I was right about the car she sold being connected. Starting to calm down now, I was shaking like a leaf..!!
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I'm trying,, had to get past that initial adrenalin rush.. Feels good though to finally have a name and realize I wasn't as far off the mark as I could have been.. Amazing.. And how original.. All WW has told me is first name, they switched the first letter of his name.. How original..
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if you remain calm and appear "normal" ... WW will drop her guard
stay frosty
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had to get past that initial adrenalin rush know what adrenalin rushes are good for? when you next feel one ... it is an excellent time to exercise vigerously do some wild & crazy physical activity of your choosing Pep
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Question,
Should I ask WW to bring home paystubs? How should this be handled? I'm sure that the reason she is not is because I would then be aware of how often she takes off work. Like I said above, my belief is this is mostly a daytime thing, except for those times I have to travel on business.
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