Can't you look at her deposits from her check to see changes in amount every two weeks. You might see dips in income when see took time off. Just a thought.

ILF,

She's hourly, and can make it up with overtime. The amounts are never the same, close sometimes, but never the same.

Got background check,, what a loser.. Doe's not identify if he's married or shacked up. Looks like he bounces around to different family member's homes, criminal record (90s - possesion, served time). This is what she picks over me!! Maybe that's why she's not "running to OM arms" as someone said earlier.

Got mother's name and address. Any advice?

Lots of thinking to do this weekend. After viewing that background check, and now coming home and finding evidence that she was here today, I'm thinking I just might go directly to plan B.. Put her out with pbl in hand..

Broken,

If you are in the city, I am about 45 miles down the Stevie from you. If you get the need to talk, my email is in my profile. Drop me a line and I'll check tonight before bed. If you want, I can send you a phone number to reach me. W and I have plans for tomorrow, but I may be able to talk at some point this weekend.

Hang tuff! Things slow down around here on weekends and it might take a while to get answers.

FWIW, you probably need to stay in gathering mode and avoid confrontation mode for a bit longer. There is no point in arguing with or reasoning with a WW. She doesn't get it and won't give you anything back but grief anyway. Save your ammo and when it comes time to expose and confront, go nuclear! Let it all happen at once, expose, confront and state your own commitment in one fell swoop.

Until she has ended contact and completed withdrawal, you aren't likely to get a commitment from her. Until it is overwhelming, she will deny, she will lie, she will refuse to commit, she will continue contact w/OM.

I will check back later but my W is waiting and my OT is one of her biggest LBs, even though this is my first day back to work in two weeks.

Hang tuff!

Mark

Broken, if it comes to where you need a counselor, I can recommend a Christian one one in the Northern Suburbs. He helped me a few years ago. E-mail in my profile.

ok, next step will be to a) find out if he is married and b) follow her to see what she is doing and where they are going. Can you have her followed on a night you know she is out with him?