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Knak123 needs help from the Big Guns here. If left solely in my care he will be divorced and working as a fish gutter on a trawler off the Gulf of Thailand by summer. Check the Thread “Emotional Affair?” Help!

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Chrisner......Can't stand goose eggs on the sports scoreboard or on the 'reply' list......reminds me of how I watched my first post lay goose eggs for 9 hours before someone replied. (thanks Artor)

I'll bump your goose egg, Chrisner by saying thanks for the APB for Knak yesterday.

Today, it appears that I've killed threads for Lostboy68 ("My Story - Happy Ending") and 22Devastated.....dang, I hate it when that happens. Loby seems to have started replying (according to the 'online who's doing what' log,) but then no post.

Haven't seen or heard from 22Devastated.

PLEASE KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR Sue Anderss "PLAN A, WH still seing OW HELP, my story" ....Pep's been helping her but she really needs lots of input and is very open it appears.

Thanks and off to 'postless' work,
Ace

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Thanks Ace,

Based on the way my own marriage is turning out I should be sending out resumes and applications to Cambodian fishing captains myself. Hopefully it will run a better course for Knak.

In the ongoing string of “What-Ifs” that run through my mind, I can’t let go of “What if I had woken up to what was right in front of me and found this place just 2-months earlier?” Even one month earlier could have been all the difference. Maybe with the help of the great people here, the EA would never have become a PA. I would have had time to really put together a strong and thoughtful Plan A. I could have saved my marriage. I would be working together with my W (she was a wonderful person) making a better marriage and not counting the days to be severed from WW (she is an entitled, selfish, mean creature I do not recognize) forever.

That’s probably why I felt so compelled to help Knak. He may have the time I did not have to get it right and I don’t want him to waste a second of it. Nobody deserves this crap. Arrrggggg. Time to go back to Soiree.


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--Samuel Johnson (1709-1784)


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Chris,

I posted a reply, but I don't have much time to follow up with posts to knak, so you need to be sure to get him to take a firm stand for the M and not be afraid to block all access to OM. I have experience with long distance affairs, and the only way to kill them is to starve them of the other person. Since the other person is not there, you cannot run them into the other person's arms. There should be nothing to worry about. His WW is an ADDICT, and should be treated as such. Get rid of all the alcohol in the house to prevent a relapse. Tell knak to read up on chicagodad's story. Call out for him to give some advice. I posted extensively to chicagodad, and my advice is right on and applies to knak as well. Starve this A to death, and then go about the process of restoring the M.


Jim

BS - 32 (me)
FWW - 33
Married 8/31/03
No kids (but 3 cats)
D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA)
NC agreed to - 11/8/06
NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07
Status - In Recovery
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chrisner,

What is going on with Wayzilla these days? Is it just legal contact now? What's the timeline on that affair btw? And how are you my friend. Any new movies we need to review?

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In the ongoing string of “What-Ifs” that run through my mind, I can’t let go of “What if I had woken up to what was right in front of me and found this place just 2-months earlier?” Even one month earlier could have been all the difference. Maybe with the help of the great people here, the EA would never have become a PA. I would have had time to really put together a strong and thoughtful Plan A. I could have saved my marriage. I would be working together with my W (she was a wonderful person) making a better marriage and not counting the days to be severed from WW (she is an entitled, selfish, mean creature I do not recognize) forever.


chrisner,

I am going to steal this quote from you (with your permission of course)
Brought a tear to my eye. MY exact sentiments. I occasionally copy a few quotes that I come across into a file of my own. I have made two sections -

One section that I read over and over again now to help keep me on track and another section that I believe will be helpfull in later relationships. This kind of "what if" thinking does't do any good right now, but If I can remember all this wisdom for the next one I won't need to ask "what if", I'll die happy!!

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Thanks Jim,

I will try to stay on top of that with Knak. I will never have the tenatious bulldog on a mission attitude you bring to threads but I will do my best. You have helped many people here!

Star*fish, not much new for me but I thought I would do a little update on my thread today. Check for it later.


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Can anyone slip on over to answer Sueanderss call for help?

Her sitch is on: "PLAN A- WH still seeing OW HELP - My Story"

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But she has a new thread that Pep's been helping her with called "Lies, Lies, and more Lies" and she could use more encouragement from others besides me.


Thanks,
Ace

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Like you, Chrisner, I feel like such an idiot at times...

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />....what-do-I-say?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />....what-should-they-do?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />....what-if-I-say-the-wrong-thing-and-nobody-notices-to-2x4-me-before-it's-too-late?

Man, I wish I knew this stuff....but I will learn it so I can do more than merely bump and encourage.

Have we heard an update from Mr. Knak123?

Oh, and contrary to my regrets above for killing 2 threads, it appears I only killed 22Dev's thread. Lostboy68 posted almost immediately after I lamented his disappearance and apologized for being busy at work. Phew! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for caring, Chrisner and like others, I'm looking for your updated thread. Here's a suggestion.....when you send out your resume for that fishing trawler captainship in the S. Pacific, be sure they allow a laptop on board and have wireless web connection! If not, I'd say that'd be a deal-breaker.

Ace

P.S. I read everything you write.


FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)

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