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It's okay for M to be who he is and not want to change. At least he is being honest. However, it also okay for that not to be what you need. You have expressed what you need, and he has not changed. And that's okay...just as it is for you to leave the relationship.
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I’ve tabled the M discussion/decision.
First, M had some serious storm damange to deal with. It would be terrible timing.
Second, my Ex and I have been trying to resolve the summer camp issue. It has taken a lot of energy from me. I always lose “negotiations” with B because B won’t stop negotiating until he gets everything he wants. If I take something off the table, I’m accused of being inflexible and unwilling to negotiate. So yesterday, I decided I was unwilling to negotiate any more. We don’t agree. We won’t agree. So, let the courts decide if he doesn’t like it.
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I'd like to kow how Aeri met her new husband, and how we can find one like him. Believe it or not, we met online. The thing is, I wasn't looking for anyone and neither was he! We actually met in a chatroom, of all things! This is a generalization, but I find that European men are more mature than North American men. I'm 36, my Husband is 31...let me tell you, he's the most mature 31 year old I know...I wouldn't have even CONSIDERED any of the 31 year old "men" that I've met around here..... I was a veteran of MB when I met him though...I think knowing the MB concepts really helped to make our marriage a success...We'll be celebrating our SECOND anniversary in July--where has the time gone????
Married 6 years on July 23, 2011--no issues and deeply in love--thanks, MB!
I'm convinced that I'm married to the most wonderful man alive....
I hear and I forget. I see and I believe. I do and I understand. Confucius (B.C. 551-479)
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This is a generalization, but I find that European men are more mature than North American men. I'm European <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />. AGG
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Of course, the danger with falling for someone from another country is... they may want to move back permanently. For me, that would be terrible. Although I know others would love it.
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Yes AGG, but you are in California. To bad for us East Coast women!
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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Well, we all know AGG is a big tease.
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Well, we all know AGG is a big tease. I agree. I've asked him at least twice to marry me (he'd have to accept my two dogs as part of the package though - and I know how much he loves those No Kids/With Dogs packages!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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K here......
Yes, I've tried to convince the man I'm worthy also Truly.
He likes to make us woman drool and does such a good job!
K!
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And he wouldn't meet me when I was in CA.
Is he all talk?
JK, AGG
It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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Of course, the danger with falling for someone from another country is... they may want to move back permanently. I never worried about this scenario, but it doesn't matter anyhow--I have a European passport...I could go back with him.
Married 6 years on July 23, 2011--no issues and deeply in love--thanks, MB!
I'm convinced that I'm married to the most wonderful man alive....
I hear and I forget. I see and I believe. I do and I understand. Confucius (B.C. 551-479)
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GG:Of course, the danger with falling for someone from another country is... they may want to move back permanently. If you were replying to my post and not aeri's, I should add that while I am a born European, I have been here for over 30 years now.. No chance of me going back, I promise <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. newly:Yes AGG, but you are in California. To bad for us East Coast women! Well, I was on the East Coast from '75 to '85, where were you gals?? GGWell, we all know AGG is a big tease. Tsk tsk tsk... I never tease, I always deliver what I promise... I think... TrulyHappy:I agree. I've asked him at least twice to marry me (he'd have to accept my two dogs as part of the package though - and I know how much he loves those No Kids/With Dogs packages!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Ah, well, yeah, but, er, that is different, 'cause it doesn't count, 'cause the dogs and stuff...yeah, that's it! Karona:Yes, I've tried to convince the man I'm worthy also Truly.
He likes to make us woman drool and does such a good job! I thought that was supposed to be our little secret, K...:( newly:And he wouldn't meet me when I was in CA.
Is he all talk? Hehe, nah - I was sick as a dog when you were here. Just ask the dog lady - she got all pissed that I was sick and accused me of "feigning sickness". Any wonder why she is no longer in the picture? Ladies, this is all very sweet, but I do have two local (i.e. geographically desirable, hint hint) ladies to meet this weekend. Neither has dogs. Wow. Of course they are both NMNK, so.... Stay tuned... Sorry for the TJ, GG! AGG
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So AGG, where are you from originally?
Married 6 years on July 23, 2011--no issues and deeply in love--thanks, MB!
I'm convinced that I'm married to the most wonderful man alive....
I hear and I forget. I see and I believe. I do and I understand. Confucius (B.C. 551-479)
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Aeri, I didn't mean it was a problem for you or others. Just for me.
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Of course, the danger with falling for someone from another country is... they may want to move back permanently. While I don't believe in love the same way as I believed 'long time' ago, that part stayed somehow intact; If I found a guy I love and he's "My Mr. Right", I could go/move anywhere with him...
I'm not Belonging to Nowhere anymore! :-)
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Well, that wouldn'nt even be an option for me while my children are minors. I can't move them away from their father. Also, I don't think I'd be happy living the rest of my life in a foreign country far from everything I love except for my husband. I would have to depend on him for everything: that a lot of pressure. Once again, I know what would not work for me.
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I can't even move out of my county due to the custody situation, so the thought of dating someone far away would be absurd.
I think it's a very different situation if you have children.
For many of us, dating prospecta are out of state but within a 75 mile radius, which also presents a problem.
It was a marriage that never really started.
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Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
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So AGG, where are you from originally? St. Petersburg. Not the one in Florida <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. AGG
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like Dr. Zhivago? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> These ladies are gonna be swooning even more than before...
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