threadjack more than welcome. It relates completely to the place we all find ourselves, so it belongs on this thread.

eav, I am amazed at the hope you still carry. The only thing that ever concerns me with your posts is this....you stated you have moved on while still keeping hope...I believe youbut this is what I would love to see...tell us more about the WONDERFUL things God is doing in your life. Most of the time I just hear sadness in your posts. I want to know more about how you are doing on the non-WH front!!!!


I know you post some of that, but we are all pulling for you and would love to hear more (and that is the key word...) about the joy and happiness in your life.

I am sure a lot of my feelings right now are self-preservation. I have had multiple people tell me that they believe my H did love me. I think mimi is right when she says I am buying into the WS lies when I believe otherwise. I think I feel that way because it is less painful. It helps me keep my love for him buried. Where on the other hand if I kept letting his current behavior pop into my head, I would lose all the love that is left.

All of my friends are still praying for the restoration of my marriage. I am glad that they are still doing that. I do believe that ALL things are possible. I guess I just get discouraged by reality. My hope is there, it is just deep deep down!

eav, I only hope that I will be as strong as you have been and are. You too silent.

mimi is a source of encouragement to me...even when she is using that heavy 2X4! We all need that person to remind us of our convictions. She is a rare jewel!

Count me in that group.

I do and thank you! The favor is being returned!

Read back carefully over Eav's posts and her thread. I'm sure she can speak for herself BUT...she's MY GIRL...she's an hourly, daily blessing to her SPECIAL NEEDS STUDENTS, autistic students who most people would not give a minute per day. I'm sure those students are also a blessing to her. Have you checked how many books she reads..and what she has done in terms of remodeling her house????

Eav has grown IMMENSELY since she began posting here.

Thanks for the KIND WORDS, IHC.

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However, there are many other JEWELS here...including YOU...

LET US SEE YOU SHINE!!

Well, it would be IMPOSSIBLE to read all of eav's stuff...but I know she is great!

Someday there will be real jewels...in those crowns...can't wait to see 'em!

Eav, do you have a link to your thread? I'd love to read your story. I know I've often wondered about you and have thought to myself how amazing you are by the length of time that you've endured. I don't know too many people with that kind of perserverance. I say keep on until YOU know you can't anymore. (((Eav)))

come to think of it, I haven't read your entire story. That would be good to know. I have only been keeping up for under a year now.

come on eav...we're all needing this info!!!

In WH (well from OW, anyway) e-mail to int. today, he stated that he did not want our foster son to come onthe visits anymore as he is a disruption. I know this is true as I talked to my FIL yesterday and he said the same thing...I know he loves this little boy, but he can drive you nuts. He has definite issues that are not "bad" behaviors, but just can wear on you after time.

Even I know that at this time that I cannot have him in my home much longer. I am hoping the mental health services he will shortly be receiving will be a turning point for him.

It is hard to love someone but not like being around them...that is how it is with this child. I love him and want the best for him, but our personalities clash completely. I am praying that a great home will open up for him and that I can still be part of his life....

It makes me sooo sad for my boy. I understand his feelings (WH), neither of us have ever bonded with this boy (my cousins son that we are guardians of...she passed away when he was just 4) .

I just feel sad because if WH doesn't want him there, he will feel that rejection...even if he still keeps going.

I am looking for a place for him to spend those weekends...somewhere that he will feel loved and appreciated.

I am still sending him today though. My DD just said she doesn't want to go with her dad today. She is angry with him right now.

I really need some time to myself...so I hope she changes her mind!

Again, IHC, I only have one child and I feel the need for a break sometimes. I won't be getting them much anymore, due to WH's living situation, but it's a small price to pay for DS's stability and happiness.

I hope you are able to find a small piece of time for yourself.

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Because it helps us to know YOU more...someone who we have come to admire and think of often!

Have you been able to corroborate that your H is a serial cheater?

People LIE and MAKE MISTAKES...

Someone told me that too and they were actually making reference to my H taking back up with the same woman...

Verify information that you receive from OTHERS

BTW...

Eav..BACK IN THE DAY..was WIMPY..not she is GUTSY..and OUTSPOKEN...

She's FOREVER BEEN A GODDESS, THOUGH...

She even recently BOUGHT A TRUCK....

Eav...MY GIRL!!!

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mimi

i've been nothing but a wimp this week

trying to reach out to my husband and his family and getting no response

then finding out that OWH divorced her

this week i've cried and cried and tried to find the strength to keep fighting for my marraige when i'm the only one who even thinks there is one

IHC

you're right

there is much sadness in my posts and in my heart

i miss my husband

i've tried many things to fill the void in my heart where he used to be and i can't

that emptiness can only be filled by having a partner to share my life with

i know that i won't find true happiness until i have that again

Ev - I promise you - there is peace and there is happiness that isn't dependent upon an outside relationship. And having that peace and happiness makes you a better partner for when he comes back or you find you've moved on.

That feeling comes from being happy with who you are.

Have you read The Four Agreements?

i haven't read that kayla

what's it about?

i am happy with my home and i love my job and my two furry boys

i was happier and will be happier when i have someone to share these things with

that's what's missing

The Four Agreements is about four fundamental beliefs or "agreements" that lead to happiness. About The Four Agreements and the Author

thanks for the link kayla