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One thing good about a blind date is that you usually get the inside scoop from a friend. But what about other dates? Whether you've met at Church, in a bar, or online; how do you find out about a person without sounding like your interrogating them? What are some questions to ask that will get a conversation started and give you some insight into the person?
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in your case, i think the first question should be:
"what do you think about football on weekends?"
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something fun that gekko and i did were those silly questionnaires. you know the ones "what is your favorite color", chocolate chip or oatmeal cookies?, silly stuff like that. we had a lot of fun getting to know each other that way. we emailed back and forth several of those little questionnaires and not only got to know each other better, but laughed a lot too.
just a thought.
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My friends and I talk about this. They are deep and emotional, I am not. I ask questions like, what do you do, where do you live, where are you from? . ..
Factual questions.
They ask Feeling questions: What do you think about . . .
So it's always funny to ask about a date, and the friends can't answer any of my questions because they never asked their date.
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I know I'm the goofy, what the heck does he know one around here, but...
here's a thought, have a conversation
"So, how's your week been?", this open ended, it reveal something about their personal and professional lives.
"What do you do for fun?" This will reveal the football on weekends issue and/or find a common interest. If the answer is make hair dolls of the opposite sex, then you walk away. If the answer is read books about whatever subject, then you have a a smart one who may also be interesting
"so what do you think about
me? Enough about me let's talk about me. - ok I'm joking here, but then again what do you think about me?
Good Luck, and share every detail asap.
I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
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so what do you think about me? I like that! It's more about finding out what their expectations are and seeing their viewpoint. It's a good test of honesty as well.
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I think online is hard (unless you've done alot of emailing).
I've seen someone twice and really know nothing about him. I did learn his real name on the second date.
It was a marriage that never really started.
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Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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