It's an extraordinarily long story, I'm afraid. Suffice it 2 say she didn't contribute 2 the investment like she promised 2, and our settlement agreement (binding) requires us 2 distribute some of the profits 2 her after it's sold.

She just always wants more.

-ol' 2long

believer, Trix:

You folks are perceptive, but I suppose this is pretty obvious 2 most people outside the problem.

My W has learned a ginormous lesson already from this. You see, it was her idea 2 buy a house with our insurance money when our main house was still unliveable a year after the fire, and we needed 2 put her mom up for another year (she had been living in the house with us). She got the idea that if we let my SIL pick the house, then pay rent until she could buy it from us, that they'd both be delighted and that they'd all be closer.

But somehow the SIL got the notion that we didn't intend 2 sell it 2 her at fair market value, but at the price we paid for it in 2002 (just 10 months after d-day), so she sued us and we went in2 mediation.

My W wanted 2 do a good deed, and it's definitely not going unpunished. I told my W that I doubt her 75-yr old mother will survive this. But if it kills her, it'll be because she chose 2 support my SIL's untenable, monstrous, abominable, and s2pid position.

Hard lessons 2 learn. My W agreed with me 2day that it was far easier 2 say "no" 2 her alcoholic late father 20 years ago than it has been 2 say no 2 her mom, who she's usually gotten along with - until this dispute.

I liked her mom, but since she likes 2 try 2 promise away other people's money 2 the extreme detriment of all, I doubt I'll see her much any more.

-ol' 2long

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Athanasius:

I know what you mean. I use different words, but I should have recognized it for what it was.

I read Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" 4 years ago. It's in there. I should read that again.

-ol' 2long

My W and D worked up north for a 2ple days 2gether.

At one point on Thursday, while talking 2 my W on the phone, she said that my D and sonIL are "having problems." But she wouldn't tell me more.

This morning, she said that one of them is either romantically interested in someone else, or someone else is romantically interested in them, but she wouldn't tell me which one it is.

I was so blindsided that I think I missed a few oppor2nities 2 speak up. But after a rather distasteful DJ of my ability 2 empathise with the si2ation, made by my W, I said something like "so you basically don't think I should talk 2 her, because you don't believe that I can be helpful, having been subjected 2 something similar by your reationship with Rat Meat?"

She acknowledged that was what she was thinking...

My D and sonIL were gone all day 2day, so I haven't had a chance 2 talk with either of them.

Not yet.

But ol' dad is going 2 speak up folks.

I sent my W the quote from M Scott Peck about love not being a feeling, but I don't think she's read it yet.

It's relevant 2 the si2ation, so far as I understand it. My W essentially said 2 me that it should be okay for whichever one of them it is 2 cultivate a romantic "friendship" (whatever the f**k that is, though I don't think she used the term) outside their marriage.

So, that's the latest. I'm still pretty calm... ...but I shook my head in bewilderment several times 2day.

But I love my daughter and I won't let this [censored] fester, regardless of which one my W is talking about.

-ol' 2long

One would have thought that your SIL defaulted on any prior agreement when she ceased contributing anything financially to the house? Who paid the property tax? I assume she is on the title with your wife. I am sorry you are going through such a messy situation.

I think it is neat that you are working on the Model A with your son.

Good to know you will speak with your daughter...and a further disappointment that your wife thinks it is ok to cultivate other romantic relationship while married. I imagine she communicated that opinion to your daughter...yuck. Because your wife wouldn't say which; I'd guess it is your daughter who is getting involved in one...but I hope not. Anyway, we know there is likely to be pain all around because of it. They sure haven't been married very long for this to occur.

Hi 2Long...

I wanted to second that it is neat that you are working on the Model A with your son.

Next weekend (14th actually) #1S and myself are going up the N. GA mountains and going trout fishing. I've wanted to try trout fishing for years and so has he. I've got a guide for a 1/2 day and I'm SO looking forward to it!

It is so nice to have a content life these days. I'm so sorry to hear you still getting dragged through the mud with WW. Wow...you have had it rough for a LONG time! (Maybe 2Long???).

My best to you my friend....

Georgia