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I've been divorced 5 years now.
Life is normal, stable and peaceful. I haven't dated much -for lack of GOOD options. My ex has been in a 4 year relationship with a really sweet girl. She confided it me that he's cheated on her. I have a great coparenting relationship with my ex.
Some tips on how you know your ready for divorce:
1. When you can say I love you and I forgive you, I just don't choose to live like this anymore.
2. When you can be happy for your ex when he enters a new relationship.
3. When you would rather be single forever than settle for less again.


* I am BS * 13 year relationship w/a serial cheater * Divorce final 12/2002 * Totally at peace with my personal journey/recovery and totally whole in my singleness.
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I am happy for your peace and happiness in life. I too am in a much better place. My ex has lost custody of our child and really has been in one troubled "relationship" after another.
I on the other hand, will never settle for "less" than what I deserve.
I date frequently and have made a lot of good friends and have met some special women...I just am very choosy as to who now enters my and my childrens lives.
I agree with your take on when you are ready for divorce.

I feel sorry for some on this site that are allowing abusers and serial cheaters to take away their very precious years and self esteem. I am all for giving someone another chance... but they have to show they are worthy of it within a reasonable time frame. Otherwise, IMO, it should be "bye... have a nice life..."

MEDC

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Hi ILuv!

I remember you well. Glad 2 hear you're doing so well.

best,
-ol' 2long

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Life is good!


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47, 3 kids S23 S&D20
DV 6/20/03 after 21 yrs

May we all stand firm in the knowledge that all things are in Divine order, and unfolding according to a Divine Plan Colin Tipping
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Spacecase !!!!!

I can "see" you wearing that hawaiian shirt....

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ILuv,

Good to hear from you and thanks for the update. I hope it helps others see the BS have more going for them now and in the future than any WS ever will. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey Cadet,..... Howzit bro?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Aloha,
L.


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