The fun is only beginning.

On the agenda:

First is a court ordered Co-Parenting class - I think they go over sippy cup washing during this class.

Next is a Home Evaluation. Seems kind of worthless at this point, the custody master even agrees with this, since there are no agreements made over who will get the house in the D. I guess WW will have to clean up all of their extracurricular toys from their love shack.

Then the Kids get pulled into it with psycological evaluations etc.

Then back to another round of court dates.

The stress level doesn't get any lower at this point.

Any lower? Mine is pretty high, TBH...

I couldn't sleep last night to save my life! I did a little and woke up with a headache...

Waiting to hear from my laywer...

BC and LilSis are heading to the plate tomorrow.

Strivn and Eph are in the batter's box for Friday.

Good luck you guys. Stay frosty!


I would call HazMat. Yuch!

STBX's A is asking for a continous...we'll see! Waiting to hear what's up

I just confirmed with my A that the 26th hearing is cancled.
WW has conceded custody until the hearing officer meeting on the 4th.

My A and her A are friends and her A knows she's getting a better deal by cooperating with me. He knows what I want and thinks it's fair and appropriate. So in a sense he's on my side although he's representing WW. Sounds like Chris's sitch almost.

I'm feeling good about this right now.

So the killer B's are still on top.

SWEET!!

So we are down to Sis and Eph for this week.

Sis goes in tomorrow and Eph on Friday.

Give en He!! guys!


Keep that feeling and confidence BC!

Sorry I missed the thread.... I had my court date yesterday.

It was for PSS and A Fees, I feel I got robed but in the pig picture I am better off. She gets 2000 a month until Oct, she already was getting 1500 for CS and I have 30 days to pay 5K for lawyer fees, which they claimed to 12K. Now I only pay 1K per month and a lump sum of 6K in Oct. She makes about 1600 gross from her work.

Now, she gets the 736$ car payment until sept, she gets to pay car insurance, she gets to pay half of the 3 kids uncovered medical - which all 3 are heading for braces. She also gets to pay boarding for our daughters horse as I can't afford it with marital debts - she asked for it in ED so I am giving her that responsibility.

Net of it she is still short each month

Now we are having a jury trial for alimony that is in october, and I am pretty sure a jury will convict her, sorry wrong court... anyways with things that have happened and things that I have documented I don't think a jury will think she is needing.

I have documented more instances of bad parenting on her part, exposing the kids to things that just are good for a 6 9 and 11yr. So we are moving up our custody hearing to probably in the next couple of weeks

WW has isolated herself from all old friends, even her dearest, they are now better friends with me....

Here is a letter I sent her about the latest children issue

This is in reference to the voice mail I left you on Monday April 23, 2007.

If your not already aware I want to make sure your aware, if you are aware I would like to know what other things you might know that has gone on.

The girl’s behavior has definitely changed over the past couple of months, I know some of it the stress of events between us. Now there are things happening to the girls, our girls have always had a safe and secure environment and I think we both want that for them.

DD6 came this week saying things like, "touch my Weiner" and over the weekend said things to Amber that upset Kelli. I asked DD6 where she heard things and she said at your house, I asked the other girls and they have heard that and worse from the kids at your place.

Today DD6 tried to pull one of my neighbor boys pants down, I don't consider that appropriate and will not tolerate that behavior here, I asked DD^ why she did it, she said she didn't know why, I asked if that had happened to her, she said (neighbor boys 5 & &) tried that with her.

I asked if she had been touched by those boys and she initially said no, but then said, yes and then got really defensive. I left it alone but will have the counselor's explore those issues with the girls when they are seen.

The girls told me that one of the boys Kristen or Dakota urinated in front of them. I asked what they did, they said they ran away. I asked if they told you and they said yes.

You and the girls relayed the story of one of you neighbors friends, being so drunk that he urinated on your house.

I am concerned other items have happened that the girls don't feel comfortable to talk about, that is why I called Clayton Counseling to have them seen as soon as possible. They are on the top of the list and a new children's counselor has started, so we should be seen in the next week or so. I have also asked to speak to the center's director about this so she can make a decision if the girls need to be seen sooner.

DD6 asked again today to stay with me; I thought it might just be her beginning loving. I am concerned now that the might be reason's that she doesn't feel safe there.

Please let me know what more information you have on any of these items, and if there are things that have happened that you choose not to share with me at the time. Please make sure let me know what they are.

Vike,

How do you feel about the custody hearing coming up? Are you going for 50/50 custody or more? It sounds as if the WW and her surroundings are not good for the girls.

I hope WW has to get an 80 hour per week job in the near future.

VR...holy cow. I'm really sorry to hear about what's going on with the girls. Sigh.

BC...good news. I'm up alone tomorrow.

My stomach is in knots. I am certain (as certain as I could ever be about anything ever again in my life, which ain't much) that WH does not want custody, so that's not an issue. If it becomes an issue, it will be a battle, because I have that stupid, stupid, stupid move that I will have to get past. "The incident."

Everyone assures me that what I did under extreme physical and emotional duress and in a moment of passion doesn't stack up against WH's abandonment (which he didn't do according to MIL) and lack of contact with the boys over the past nine months.

I may have made a REALLY bad move, but I am in counseling and I have been the primary care-giver throughout the entire time, taking care of all the parenting stuff alone. I'm sure IC would be able to document my state of mind at the time of the incident as compared to now. And I'm sure it wouldn't reflect well on WH that during the time I was a guest of the county that it was FIL who stayed with the boys, not WH.

Nonetheless, I am scared, scared, scared.

Probably not so much about what will happen tomorrow--because it's just one more insult on top of soooo many, but the whole thing. Divorce. My kids. The end of my marriage. The loss of H. It still seems like a bad dream that I CANNOT wake up from. I swear sometimes I feel like this is all so absurd that it can't really be happening.

I did call my attorney, BTW, but he was gone for the day and will call me tomorrow AM at the office.

So it's down to two...me and Eph.

LilSis

We will be rooting for you and things will be better win you have some finality.

Sis, we are rooting for you. Waiting for your return with abated breath.

I got some life savers Wint O Green if you need one.

You're a looney! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Lil...

I was arrested for domestic trespass in november and the judge still awared be 50/50 up from every other weekend.

Stay strong girl

I guess I need to re-phrase that one -

The stress level didn't decrease any..

It has actually gotten a little worse - Plan B was doing its thing - I was in a pretty good place emotionally before the hearing, since then I have agreed to talk with her to try to come to an agreement - and it starts all over - the ONLY way to have any peace is to stay darrk.

Wow VR. That whole thing with your girls stinks. That is a slippery slope to sexual abuse and that is something no one needs in their life. BTW, what is PSS?

Just wanted to share one thought I have had regarding our Friday session. I don't know how this will play out, but one option I have thought long and hard about is to take all marital debt but also keep all the assets (401k, home equity, etc). If the custody situation does not change, I don't want her babysitting while I am at work to count for anything and her future visitation rights are every other weekend. I rally cannot image that the GAL can make any decision based on a 1 hour in-home visit at both our home and WW's place. I hope she will talk to family friends and get input there - we could both have been fake for 1 hour.

I think she found some kind of sales job working from home but I am willing to bet she ain't making squat. I don't want her to use staying at home with the kids as a reason to not get a real job. I intend to have DD3 in school next year somehow, and I would love to find something for them somehow in the summer. I have the same large disparity in income between WW and I (though not quite as large as VR)

Sis - praying for you tonight and tomorrow.

I guess I am the lone ranger on Friday <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Tonto say infidelity stink, kemosabe.

Give me a L, Give me and I, Give me a L...

Give me a S, Give me and I, Give me a S...

What's that spell? LILSIS! HURRAY...

GO SIS, GO SIS, GO SIS!

I was never a cheerleader, but my XBF was in college...I must have learned a thing or two...

Cheering you on all the way!

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On a side note, I'm still waiting to hear if court will be cancelled tomorrow...no word from my A...

Please pray that it happens and I can move on with this...

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Reaching out - I understand...and It's okay...you ARE doing well...

Stick with us...SOMEONE will help you smile! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Okay, Court has been cancelled for tomorrow and we're waiting on STBX's lawyer to call us about an agreement on CS, and moving back home...

looks like we will be trying to agree to this out of court!

New court date is June 7th...

Great news, Rin! BSs are still up.

Good news Rin! I hope all goes well working toward a settlement!