Strivn,

I am glad you did not have to face him. This sounds very good to me. The weekend can start early!

Sis is it for the week.

Stay in the conference room and let him stew!

There will be Love Busting in Rat Turd Land tonight!

LilSis,

Sending up a prayer for you, positive thoughts, good vibes and whatever else!! Stay calm. Breathe. You will be alright!!

As soon as you can, let us know how it went, okay???


((((((((((((((((((((((((LilSis)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Your faithful friend,



CJ

Still have me on for tomorrow.

WW made a proposal - she wants joint custody with her getting primary physical placement. NOT!!!

Sorry Eph! Good thing they don't have me in charge of the docket. There have been so many moves and cancellations I lost you there for a minute.

How are you doing?

Really dreading things. I felt lousy today but God is good and everyone here has helped pick me up.

I think we probably resolve everything but custody tomorrow, but I have been willing to concede most things she wanted except for custody all along.

In my own thread, I mentioned that she said she would speak with Steve Harley in exchange for her getting primary custody. While I think he can really help in our situation, I don't think it should require that "trade."

MEMO

From: Eph525

To: WW

*****

You chose to leave the marriage
You chose to leave the family
You chose to lose half your time with the kids

Your proposal for joint custody with you getting primary physical placement is unacceptable.

I propose that you leave your adulterous relationship and return home so you can have 100% of your time with the kids.

If you refuse to do that, I propose that we have joint custody, I have primary physical placement since I am the one who has provided the children stability in their home, and you have every Wednesday night and every other weekend.

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Thanks CJ - so true.

I don't know if we will be in separate rooms or together any at all. Regardless, I have it in my head to say exactly what you wrote.

I even had the idea to tell her "I am ready for you to come home now and forever. That is what is best for us all." when I pick the kids up this afternoon.

Faithful Father God,

Please be with LilSis in court, help her to be strong, and hold her up when she feels weak. Thank you for loving her, caring for her, even carrying her when she needs it. Continue to show her your unending love, mercy, and faithfulness.

Amen

Eph,

Don't you dare sway from your position. And, absolutely NO TRADING especially invoving the children. No way, no how.

Get a summer school program lined up, have the school that you intend to send DD to including positive feedback from other parents whose children attend that school. Be prepared to talk about how friends and family will help you with children. Get it written in the papers that no overnight guests with children present no related by blood or marriage.

Best of luck and prayers for you tomorrow.

Thanks everyone...I feel like I have no clue what is going on...

I don't know if I should think this is good or not...

I feel like I'm in Limbo land...I'm also happy that I don't have to face him...

Reposted from my thread...the B's are still up. I guess I'm considering it a win since I got a reprieve unti August 2!

I only saw WH from a distance. My friend B sort of blocked the view and WH kept a safe distance waaaay down the hall.

I guess this is what happened. My A came in with a list of demands. His A came in with a list of demands. They weren't the same, so nothing more happens until we have to go before the court again on August 2.

Which means I'm covered under his insurance, he pays the house payment, and most important, RT is kept away from the kids until that time.

WH asked for exclusive rights to his pension and retirement in exchange for the house...I'd get it free and clear. He's got a killer pension (union state) and we socked tons into retirement because he was always bound and determined to be sitting pretty when he retired at 53.

My A assured me beyond all doubt that the court would never, ever require me to sell or refinance the house as long as I have minor children. So to me, that means that the house issue is not really a great bargaining chip as it will likely be paid off by the time DS8 graduates. I'd rather pay him the current equity in 10 years than give up all my rights to retirement...I only have a couple of paltry accounts, because we always socked $ into his.

WH also claimed that I have the ability to work full time...intel that he only could have gotten from....wait for it....MIL. The only impact of that anyway will be in factoring CS...it would have come out eventually. Except I don't want to be full time...I want to work 30 hours. I can't swing working 40 with the transportation issues that I have for the kid's school. Oh well...that's for later, I guess.

WH also asked for the boys six weeks in the summer?!?!? ...but I need to be "flexible" due to his work schedule. He does not want to pay spousal support (alimony). He wants a "portion of the photographs, Christmas ornaments, tools, and yard equipment." He wants the mini-van (TAKE IT!) and the Suburban in exchange for the Vibe.

My A asked for spousal support and disporportionate assets due to WH's "long term infidelity." He asked for WH to pay part of the attorney fees. He noted that I will have to secure medical insurance on the open market (not true if I go full time; now I am 80% covered)

That's about it....

Thank God it's over. Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. Now I can breathe. I am so thankful that B was with me. She was very calm and asked good questions while I'm shaking like a leaf.

Good for YOU! GO Bees!

I'm still waiting to hear! I'll let you know as soon as I do!

Looks like, for now, all's quiet on the Western front, and, seemingly, the eastern one too.

Whew, let's all have a glass of wine and toast the ushering in of the weekend...

Okay...so far the score is:

KILLER BEES: FIVE FOR FIVE!!!
chrisner--He gets what he asked for (DD19) and Wayzilla gets a big ol' dose a REALITY!!
BC--WW agreed for BC to have sole custody of DS (for a year I think!) and then they'll re-evaluate.
LilSis--Didn't even have to see WH so he couldn't manipulate her. WH's demands were silly, LilSis didn't cave--and things stay as they are until the final court date which isn't until August.
Strivn--court was continued to June, but it looks like her STBXH will agree to CS and letting her and the boys move back home!!!
vikingrule--his STBXW was awarded PSS (spousal support) but now that will be counted as income and will lower his CS.

Waywards: ZERO!!!!!



Still up to bat...
Eph525--Still heading to court on Friday. WW wants joint custody with her having primary placement. Eph525 says, "Uh, not just no...but NO!!"

Ah, GEEZ, I forgot about Eph. Crapola, well one more good guy goes up tomorrow. We'll be cheering from the sidelines. I gotta say, Eph seems pretty strong in his convictions, so I'm not nearly as worried for his emotional wellbeing during this, so much as hoping for a good outcome.

And just a clarification....the next court date is Aug. 2...not the final.

We have both made our "demands" and are to report on Aug. 2 to let the judge know where we are in reaching agreement. If there is no agreement at that time, she'll schedule a trial date, which will be another 2-3 months.

Even if there is some agreement at that time, I don't know what the "next steps" are from there. I think there has to be a final something something. It's not just a done deal on Aug. 2.

????

A bit of a departure from my previous posts, but since I am indeed in the same boat with court next week here goes nothing!

I filed and won an ex parte emergency temporary custody order today for my two kids. WS has been out of the house since 22 March and has threatened (among other things) to take the kids out of state. Based on conversation today (after the order was granted, she hasn't been served yet) she ACTUALLY BELIEVES that Kansas will have child custody juristiction, even though we all have lived in North Carolina for over three years (military). She refuses to give me her current address...living with a female friend who "doesn't want any drama at her house", but she got a job yesterday and gave me the address...I guess the Sheriff can serve her there. Court on Wednesday, and I've got quite a bit of evidence of her neglect on my side, plus it was her that left the kids in the first place.

We shall see how it ends up, but so far so good.

Great job LilSis.

Thanks for the vote of confidence SL, but I gotta admit my emotions are all over the place. As you said, I do feel strong in my convictions so I am holding on to that.

Hoping to make us 6-0 for a clean sweep.

Just need to get some stuff ready for tomorrow and get in the bed.

Pray for me.

Brewer- Good for you...I wish you the best of luck...

E- I was talking about God being your biggest fan...LOL...sorry, I'm a fan too...all the same I'm glad it helped...

I've got you covered in my corner with the prayers!