Eph - Good luck today!

A sort of an update, My DD11 has a band trip for May 5, down to Carrollwinds in NC. Its my weekend and I had baught tickets for all 5 of us. Me the 3 girls and WW. She was is going to drive separate, her big SUV by herself and me with 3 kids in a Jeep wrangler.

Now after court, I have 30 days to come up with 5K for A fees, which will be tricky. I had to make a command decision one that deeply hurts and effects me emotionally. I had to leave WW a voicemail last night letting her know that I can not go, that I would prefer for her to take the girls, even though its my weekend and make sure they have a good time.

My DD8 hear the message and asked and got sad and cried, because she wants me to go. DD11 called just a few minutes later and she asked me if I was going. I left the VM for WW and DD11 called to confirm that I wasn't going. I had left WW the message not really wanting to get teh kids involved. The only thing I heard from DD11 was if we have a spare ticket can we use... that is just like WW. I haven't even had an offer from WW to pay for her ticket let alone help pay for the kids.

Good luck, Eph! Thoughts going out to you today...keep us posted.

Batter UP! Knock this one out of the Park Eph! Let us know how things go...

Dave, keep us posted as your day comes up.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts, prayers, and encouragement.
No idea how long it will take, but I think it will go fast since I ain't budging on custody.


Now batting for the Home team, Eph525. He is batting over .500 with 1 HR and 2 RBIs.

Good stats on that Eph, let's see what he can do today...

VR,

Your kids will see through it if she tries to use this to make you look bad. You're basically doing this FOR your kids so you can afford to fight for them. That's NOBLE.

You know what's up. God knows what's up. You're covered dude.

Eph,

Praying for you today. Remember God is with you.

Still

Quick update from mediation:

No discussions on custody, that will stay as is for now.

It will all be related to financial matters today.

Well we are done for today.

Some baby steps, but no final agreements.

My counter offer on the financial matters was met with some resistance.

So I did not lose anything but did not gain anything. Is that a win or a tie?

That is a win. I'm happy things went well.

Sounds like a win to me. Good job! Were you and WW in same room? Did that go okay?

Winner!

We weren't in court - it was an attorney's office complex.

We were together while the mediator explained the ground rules and the process. Then my A and I went to a different room to craft up a response to WW's original proposal.

The mediator then met with us to review it for his understanding so he could present it to WW and her A. He felt it was fair.

the sticking point was about a cash offer and the value of a portion of my 401k I offered that she would get in a QDRO.

I gave her most property that she wanted that was not being used by the kids, i.e. bikes, clothes (ugh, clothes again?), books, art stuff, etc. We need that stuff at home.

Play-by-play:

And Eph525 steps in and watches ball one go by. Second pitch is fouled off behind the plate. Next pitch, ohh he drops to the ground to keep from taking it on the chin.

Steps back in, here is the pitch, swing and there is a solid single to left-center field.

Looks like the visiting team's coach is on the way to the mound to have a talk with his pitcher - stick a fork in him he is done.

So the final score for the week:

Killer Bees: Six for Six
Waywards: ZERO!!!!

I would like each and every one of you Killer Bees to keep this in mind the next time you wonder, "When is karma gonna come around and bite WS? They get all the fun and stuff and I get all the responsibilities and bills!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Did anyone here win the final battle? No, not really. But each and every time , the waywards presented an unrealistic demand, and each and every time, they were brought down to earth with some harsh realities. Not one single killer bee caved, wavered or freaked out...and not one single killer bee lost anything precious like CUSTODY. (Hey--money is nice but let's be honest...you can live without it!) In each and every instance, the killer bees behaved in a civil, reasonable, dignified fashion protecting themselves and their children...and in pretty much every single instance, the waywards were cranky, controlling, demanding, unrealistic, selfish, or unreasonable.

Guys, this was a GOOD week! Let's celebrate with a Killer Bee BBQ weekend. I'm making ribs...and I'm gonna teach Strivn how to start a grill!!!!!

Here's to you, Killer Bees. I tip my feather tiara to you!!! GOOD JOB!!

Your faithful friend,


CJ

Good at bat Eph! Team Eph is lookin' good, kids cheering from the dugout, all us Bee's in the stands, smell dem dogs and beers. Great day for a ballgame.

I agree with CJ, Great week, you guys! I am in awe.

Well, I was really feeling like mine wasn't a win but I do have custody for awhile longer...

So, I guess THAT is good...

Way to go E...I'd consider that a win too!

CJ, I can't thank you enough for your clarity...I love the way you can put things into prepective...

I guess I'm still up...waiting on the call about CS, and use of the home...hoping it will be early part of next week...

Do we want to have some fun with it and take bets? LOL

Perhaps that like easy some of the tension for me!

Hi Killer B's;

While I am not a vet, nor can I advise you on Plan B, I do want to encourage you and support you on your journeys. Why others don't comment could be two-fold, one, you guys are doing a great job supporting each other, and two, I've concluded there are some on this board that are drawn to the drama's for the excitement. Plan B is more methodical and doesn't change really on a day to day basis. Just my humble opinion.

I just wanted to stop by and let you know that I admire all of you. I didn't find MB until several mo. after d-day #2 with NC established. Thus, I never did the plans. And I regret that after I learned of them. What you guys are going thru now is tough, that's for sure. But what you would be going through w/o is much worse. I can see how strong all of you became after the BS fog lifted, it took quite a while for my fog to lift and still working on the being stong part.

Another aspect of Plan B is, from what you all shared, it has allowed you to be there for your kids. Your emotions are more in check and it doesn't seem like you live your days ruled by them. Your kids have all benefited from this I am sure. I know it wasn't an instant thing for most of you, more like a process until you got to where you are. The fact that there is the group that supports each other is what I think this forum is all about.

Take care and good luck on your journeys.

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Nabohio,

Thank you for encouraging us. I think it's just been a stressful week for most. You are dead on when you say that there is no real drama in Plan B, which is how it should be.

There are so many new people coming to the forum almost daily, it seems, and THEY really do need the most attention. I do love how this place has helped me to even find a plan, much less follow it.

June 14th.. final court date. I can't seem to help myself from counting down the days. 35 more days till I'm divorced and no longer Mrs. H. In my heart he will always be my H.. not the WH I no longer recognize.