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DEEPLY COMMITTED!!!!


BW 35 (Me) WH 35 DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3 Married 1994 Dday 7-9-06 Plan B started 12-24-06 Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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I could NEVER be that person.

I never thought WW could ever be that person. Another betrayed spouse's Skanky Ho problem? The unremorseful destroyer of a little boy’s future? All so she could pursue her entitled selfish fantasy happiness?

I am also very grateful I have found this place and the additional reading resources to help me understand, build and maintain the barriers that will hopefully prevent me from ever becoming someone’s Bulldozer of Stupidity.

I am sure that a wayward has a hole in their moral hull. Some no doubt are Titanic like iceberg gashes. But being the betrayed gives you the opportunity to check your hull so to speak and patch any weak spots.

Again, I am very grateful I am the betrayed spouse.


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Speaking of Titanic

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I agree...good time for checking for weak spots...I will be an even better wife the next time around! (she says optimistically!)


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We all say we could never be that person, and maybe now that we know what we know, we couldn't be. Probably couldn't be (although there are people who come back . But I believe in the temporary insanity that comes along with waywardness. It *could* have been me. I know that. I have admitted it several times to my WW.

It feels weird to say this, but I am glad to be the BS rather than the WS. I pity my WW for what she has coming.

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I had a small surprise this morning. My desktop computer at home runs a slideshow display from my picture folders cycling a new image every few seconds. There are hundreds of images in there of vacations, basketball, gardens etc. I am having my first cup of coffee this morning when I catch an image out of the corner of my eye I never saw before; Gollum and Wayzilla’s happy smiles in a portrait shot. She must have had someone at their work take the picture with my camera and then downloaded it on the computer. It was taken in November and I know exactly which day it was and I know what they did that night after work.

Now before you say, “Wow, what a trigger!” I will let you know that I immediately burst out laughing. What an ugly little mutt he is. I had not seen him in over two years. His head is a little lopsided like it had once got stuck in a piece of heavy equipment (maybe the bulldozer of stupidity) and the surgeon had trouble putting the metal plate in. He has this little goatee beard that a 17 year old boy could grow better. She is fully five inches taller than him in her heels. He does look like Gollum. “My Prechhhhhhhiiiiisssssss.”

It was also at this moment that I realized all those people at MB who have said she will one day try to reconcile even if the attempt is too feeble to recognize are absolutely right. It is really going to happen someday. These two together will make an epically stupid pairing. Fortunately, neither one of them can spawn anymore.

And I feel great today!

Last night I went after cleaning up and filing the bills and statements and moving them to the roll top desk. I came across the stash of credit card receipts from Sept-Nov that it now looks like she was hiding all together. There were all kinds of clothes and panties from stores where the normal clientele age out at about 19. An $89 dollar pair of jeans! I wonder what the 18 year old tongue pierced sales associate thought about this 45 year old woman and her taste in clothes? She bought some CD’s of bands I have never heard of but I am sure could be identified quickly by a 17 year old girl. Mid-Life crisis from He!!.

It looks like BC might be coming to Denver in July. BC and Chrisner set loose together on the Front Range and greater Denver Metropolitan area! That should be an interesting thread.


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My gmail's bugging out again. If I ever get it back up I'll WRITE down your number and give you a ring.

NOBODY GET GMAIL. IT SUCKS!!

Here's a little something to get you in the mood for Cajun Fest 07

Some Good Ole Chanky Chank - The Back Door


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Now before you say, “Wow, what a trigger!” I will let you know that I immediately burst out laughing. What an ugly little mutt he is. I had not seen him in over two years. His head is a little lopsided like it had once got stuck in a piece of heavy equipment (maybe the bulldozer of stupidity) and the surgeon had trouble putting the metal plate in. He has this little goatee beard that a 17 year old boy could grow better. She is fully five inches taller than him in her heels. He does look like Gollum. “My Prechhhhhhhiiiiisssssss.”

Over time, most women ARE heavily influenced by HOW "they" look as a couple.

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Hey, chris! I'm so glad that was your reaction! Time and space sure make a difference.

Wanna know what my first reaction was to Bab's? Relief! She's just yucky. I imagined it would be some young knock out, but it wasn't. The only thing really that she has going for her his she is thin. Otherwise....she looks old and worn...with a big nose...and a constantly b!tchy look. I've seen pictures of when she was supposedly "happy" looks "b!tchy" to me. She's actually too thin, if you ask me. She's "little girlish". No shape to her profile at all except for the big nose.

Yup, Wayzilla and Gollum will fall. And hopefully the knock she gets will bring her memory back. Kind of like a brain injury....the sense gets knocked out of you, then you get hit again later and it can be knocked back into you.

Glad you are good, chrisner.

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All I can say is Thank GOD for humor. If my sense of humor was not good, I would have failed miserably in this endeavor!

Laughing has definitely helped me through this...as it is helping you!

I'm glad you are doing well...that one could have been a bad one!


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Good reaction, mis amigo. You sound really together. With DD19 by your side (and a visit from BC coming up), good things are ahead!

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Now I see the attraction! Gollum can sing!

Gollum on Soul Train


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LOL! I love your sense of humor and have had many a chuckle at your posts...

It offers inspiration for a positive outlook when all things around me are crashing down. Funny stuff.

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Wow!! What a duet!

(twirl) "Girl, I'll never, ever give you up!" (twirl)

OH YEAH...I'm putting on some Gollum and Smeagle with the lights low TONIGHT--shaking my GROOOOOOOOOOOOOVE thang!

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Aw, maaaaan! I love Barry White, now all I can picture is Smeagle and Gollum, instead of the ever so smooooooooth Barry White, but, as usual, that is F'n hilarious.

"I'm never ever gonna quit, 'cause quittin' just aint my schtick..."

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Chrisner.....

I don't know if I've posted to you before, but I have read many of your posts. I think your sense of humor is hilarious and refreshing in times like these. I can't imagine what you'd be like if you weren't going through all of this. I bet I would split a gut.

Your last post about finding that picture had me rolling!

I wish we could all get together for an MB party one day. There are so many funny, strong, and wonderful people on these boards. It'd be a great time for sure.

Glad to see you're handling it well.

And btw.....I have always thought the name Wayzilla was hilarious. I chuckle everytime I read it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Take care.


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Chrisner,
Just wanted to tell you that you did not offend me. I really should not post after a long day at school <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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HI, chris...just droppin in...

waving "HI" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />


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The house will be appraised tomorrow and the meeting to mediate the final distribution of assets will be on Wednesday. If an agreement is made the paperwork will be forwarded to the Magistrate for signature on June 13th and the divorce will be final.

Wayzilla has not called DD19 for one week. She must be very busy with something. Wonder what that could be?

I asked DD how she was doing with the divorce so close to being final at dinner on Friday night. She said she works real hard not to think about it and when she does think about her Mom she views her as if she has died. That hurts. I told her be patient and there is a good chance her real mother will be back again someday. I am sure this affair will burn up in only a few months but I don’t know who will come out of it; DD’s Mother? Wayzilla? Wayzilla Part II? (there is a sequel no one would want to see). Only time will tell.

D-Day: 193 Days Ago
Plan B: 125 Days
Remaining Days Until Divorce is Final: 9


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Who's gonna play Wayzilla in PartII, Nicole Richie or Paris Hilton?


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