Hellow this is my first post that i am starting. But i am in need of deep advice.I have not been married for that long only 1 yr and 8 mo. And on top of that
i am only 22. The problems started when i left after a month of being married to my wife. We were getting into arguments over my x. I got tired of it and i left
and at the time we were living with her parents. I read a post about some women who her husband was having problems with there marriage. And basically he left her and when he came to pick up his stuff he never thanked them. Well i made the same mistake when i left. After we got back together i talked to her parents and told them i was sorry for all of the pain that i cause to there daughter and the family and i appericated everything they did for us. Now my problem is everytime i get into an arguement with her or i dont like something she says i tell her to leave or i say i am going to leave and never come back. ive been telling her that i will change. Well actually she told me that i need to change and that everytime i say i will i dont. some of the things i said i would do is not complain about her. Cause she says that she does not complain about me so why should i. which she does not do.i sometimes accuse her of cheating of me cause she is frequently gone to her parents houes.i know that she is close with them.but when i talk to her about it she says just cause i am not close to my parents dosent mean that she is going to stop seeing them. but she has never given me a reason to not trust her. i mean she has never cheated on me. the main thing is she is tired of me saying that i am going to change and i dont. she said that she is gettign tired of me and she has no more patience with me that she has been patient long enough.we got into an arguement last night cause she dosent like being around alot of people and it was packed at the movie theatres.she said she wanted to go home and sleep and i could go out if i wanted to. but i didnt all i wanted to do was spend time with her and take her out.cause she says that i never take her out anymore.so i told her that i was going to leave.and she said that was my last chance and i messed up. i told her today that i would change and i would show her she said that i always say that i really want to chage for her cause i love her and i dont want to lose her.but all she says is that i say the same thing over and over but i only last for a couple days then i go back to my old ways.i just want to change and change for good. i mean i understand cause i was never like this before it all started when i left her. i know it was a mistake and i would never do that again.

If you truly want to change maybe you can talk about it with her. Instead of making a huge goal make small things you can do to acheive the ultimate goal. We do that, otherwise it tends to work for a week and fades off. Taking small steps are easier then one giant leap.

How about if when you get upset, instead of threatening leaving, you go for a walk? Just to clear your head before you say what you regret..

All I can say is read His Needs/Her needs and please remember actions are MUCH louder than words. Broken promises are more damaging to a relationship in my opinion than no promise at all.