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Exposing Infidelity to THE WORLD???
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Found out last wk H having A with OW. I told DD's. Should I tell his sis's? I haven't had contact with them in yrs. Should I call? Send email? How do I expose it all?
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If he has very little contact with them, it probably won't help much. But you could send an email.

Is the OW married?
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He seems to have contact with sis's.

I do not know if OW is married. She lives in another country but there might even be someone else here close by -- I cannot be sure.

I am not looking at this point to save my M, just to expose the truth.
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Expose away, then. Have you filed for divorce?
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believer #1883873 05/31/07 12:34 PM
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Yes I filed for D. He was served end of last wk. M has been just under 30 yrs and he has been pushing for D since Jan. and when I found about OW, I realized why the push. Well, he's in for a big awakening.
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Do you want to save the marriage? I realize you have filed, but this site can help with saving it if that is what you want to do.

FBH - FWW had EA in May 1999 (Discovered, recovered) FWH - I had PA in Aug 2004 Confessed to PA - July 17, 2006 In Recovery, forgiven and working to earn it.
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I have tried to save it for 5 mths now alone. Finding out about A made me realize why I was not getting where. I don't believe it is salvagable as H does not want to work at it. Not in the least.
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Waywards never want to work on the marriage while they are still wayward.

Do you want to?

If so, you can get help here.

The marriage may still end in a divorce, but there are tools here to help if you want to give it a shot.
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I wanted to make this M work. I tried everything - counseling, books, cd's, only to be told over and over NO NO NO, there's no hope.

Then I found out about A and all the money he wasted on OW meanwhile lying and implicating our DD's - having them pick up his cleaning for his little "trips" with OW, cancelling vacations with them to be with OW, lying where he was, etc. Not very nice.

Dr H says to expose even though I have already filed D. My DD's know everything and I am slowly exposing to others, but haven't ramped it up yet to include OW or his family.

OW is abroad. I have OW ph. no's (home, work, cell). Is it worth my stress to do this? His sis's (who lately he seems to be getting closer with)? Should I email them or just leave it alone?

Has anyone exposed the WS? What has it done for you?

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