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[vent]

I just want to vent. You do not need to make suggestions or help me deal with it...I got it. Nope, it's not that...I just want to blow off some steam.

You know, as a BS who tries Plan A--then Plan B--and yet your WS is determined and you end up D'ed, you sort of hope that karma pays your exWS a visit, and what goes around comes around. You hope that SOME DAY your exWS "comes to their senses" and maybe realizes that they treated you like dirt and their selfishness was excessive. I think SOME exWS's have that moment...but not my DH's exW!!

She left DH a couple years ago for a fellow graduate-level student. Of course, OP was 12 years younger than her (she's my age)...but he was her "soulmate" (puke) and off she went. Naturally, within a few months he dumped her for a 25yo blonde (like she couldn't have seen that coming) and exWW was too stubborn to admit she was wrong and stop the D. Instead, she hardened her heart and D was finalized.

Since then she has gone through money and men like they are WATER. She drinks every night and smokes the ganj. She almost failed her graduate school (she couldn't pass the Ethics exam--heehee <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Ironic, huh?), and has flunked the state licensing exam several times! The kids have been with us 100% of the time, she calls them or sees them for a couple hours about once every three months, she doesn't contribute ONE DIME to child support...and she lost her home because she doesn't pay her bills!!!<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

I mean...she is a LOSER (finger and thumb in the shape of an L on her forehead)!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Yet every so often, she will do something that just BOGGLES my mind. It's YEARS after the D that SHE wanted and pushed for is finalized...yet just yesterday she called DH at the crack of dawn to wake him up and (get ready)...


... [color:"red"] SHE ASKED HIM TO PAY HER HEAT BILL FOR HER, SO SHE COULD MOVE INTO A NEW HOUSE!!!![/color]



NO Kidding!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Can you believe it?? Can you believe the sense of entitlement STILL after all these years. When DH said no and told her he was hanging up and going back to sleep, she had the brass cajones to start YELLING at him that he "owed it to her" that she has had a hard time and it was all HIS fault!! (envision the Exorcist scene with the head spinning around) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I swear..she's "special." <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> And when she does see the kids once-per-season, she tells them that she will set up her house and they'll be living with her "happily ever after" (yeah...right...in between her social life and her drunken parties....and her men), but what she doesn't get is that the kids are children and they sort of believe her. They WANT to have time with mom!!

Oh she is just NUTZ, I'm telling ya!!!
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Thank you! I feel better <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />



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Jaw Dropping
Staggering
Mind Boggling
etc
etc
but finally
Predictable
Vindicating
Boring
HA
ethics my behind!

Hi my friend!!

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I believe even Longhorn may have some damaging language for this wayward......

I will not even tell you what I think about his ex WW cause it would be too ugly.

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Faithful,

WHY no child support from Ms Looney Tunes????????
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Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Well!!

Please tell me answer THAT question Cymanca!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

When exWW and DH did the parenting plan for the D, she was working as an associate/intern in her profession and he was working doing his web designer stuff. The parenting plan says that they have joint custody and each have the kids equal time...thus, they decided to not have either party pay child support.

Shortly thereafter, Miss Nutter Butter went slutty and basically stopped taking her kids for the weekend because it interfered with BoyToy time. Then she had to "study" for graduation (apparently it wasn't for Ethics though!)...then she lost her house because she didn't pay rent! Soooo...she has had no place for the kids or their stuff if they were to be with her. THEN...she was too busy studying for the state licensing exam so the NUT JOB quit her associate/intern job and has had no income.

I kid you not...for at least the last 1 1/2 years she has been living with BF's letting them pay her expenses!!! She has no job, noplace to stay except in various men's beds...it's AWFUL! Now, we could have sued her for CS while we have had the kids full-time...but she had no job and ya can't get blood from a turnip. We figured there was no point. NOW, she has a TEMP JOB (yep--that college education paid off big time!) and we are putting papers together to file for CS.

Sooooooo...isn't she just SOMETHING???



BTW, it was lovely to hear from you mon chere (that's starfish you guys)! Yes, it's shocking, stunning, and unbelievable...and yet it is completely, 100% predictable. This just IS who she is (shaking head sadly). Who would WANT to be like that?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

HAP--even LONGHORN would have descriptive adjectives, huh?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

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Faithful,

Please,please eliminate your email address from your sig line. It is never safe to expose your identity on any internet site. I did a quick google and got a LOT of info on your name.


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CJ,

You know what Bernard Shaw said?

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On both ends of the social spectrum there is the leisure class.

She's entitled to a life of leisure isn't she? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I mean heck she is educated and believes in perpetual slavery (that would be her exH). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I love this story. I know you were steamed, but when something this stupid and outlandish comes up tell me how do you keep from laughing?

Hang in there, this too shall pass.

God Bless,

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I dont know why I am smiling reading your post, it sucks and I am sorry, but I dont think anybody would believe this story if it was fiction. What a riot.

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Oh that is so true. If you were making up a fiction story, no one would believe something like this. Truth really is stranger than fiction.

And Mr. JL will you pass the Geritol please? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I do laugh at this. I mean...it is hilarious and pathetic at the same time! I get steamed when I view it from "in the middle" but when I step out and view it from the "impartial third party" view...it's better than "Married With Children"!

I mean..REALLY!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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Faithful,

He could have said "when h*ll freezes over, oh but that's where you're living. Still the answer is no."

Caught in a web of her own doing, amazing.

V/r,
No way


BS (me) 44
FWW 41
M 18 yrs
FWW in LTA, Dday Jan 2005
K - S15 & D12

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