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How long did you know her before you married her?

Anti-D's won't help her if she is bi-polar. Do you notice periods of highs?

I think you need to protect yourself by going to Plan B.

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And why are you choosing not to go to Plan B?

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Hey ,
I went through most of this post to get the background. I didn't want to reply on the other post because it was for someone else.

I have to say you do have a mess here. IMO you seem to be what I call a rescuer. You feel a need to fix other people. You can't fix your wife. She needs serious help and only she can get it.
Just so I have the facts here:
Step back and if this were me posting what would you tell me?

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OK...at this point, I don't see any reason for your wife to change her ways. There's no PRESSURE on her to make that kind of change.

If you change nothing, nothing changes.

You're going to be stuck in this rut for as long as you let yourself be treated this way. If you don't opt to do something about it (plan B, further exposure, something...), you're going to be in this same boat this coming up April.

Personally, she needs to start seriously suffering some kind of consequences of her affair(s). And all these inappropriate contacts with OM of various numbers count as such.

If she's going to do that, you need to make sure that you totally cut off whatever means she's using. Stop paying her phone bill, internet, etc...

If she keeps this up, you really NEED to have a plan together on letting her 'suffer' for it. If she wants to act unmarried, she should be TREATED that way by you.

Just how I see it.

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I am not up on the IM's.... What does s o on mean?

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I'm sure you have gone online and read the risk factors, if you haven't please do so, just so you will have a line of defence if it comes up again.

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Things will most likely continue to fall apart until you do something different. Please go to alanon and get some support. If your wife ISN'T an alcoholic (and I think she IS), the support will still help you. The 12 step program will help you will dealing with an alcoholic, a person who has mental issues, and many other problems.

You are a good guy, and I hate to see you suffering like this.

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