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HB, do not let your H upset you if he gets angry about this and don't allow him to bait you into a fight. He will only be mad because you interfered with his crack supply and will try to scare you into silence and submission. Just tell him that you are sure sorry he is upset, but the OWH has a right to know about the affair too.
I would suggest that you expand out your circle of exposure targets NOW so you get your full money's worth. Expose to his parents, close siblings, employer if a workplace affair, and any others you can think of. If he is going to be mad, make it worth your while.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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You have no control over what he does. Don't start worrying about what the affairees do. I would go and have a nice vacation. Besides, this could end the affair. Go get some popcorn, and sit back and watch.
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I don't see why you have to discuss exposure at all..
be elusive...
evasive...
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Ark, everyone told me yesterday to EXPOSE, EXPOSE, EXPOSE. Do you not agree with that?
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I will let Ark answer what she meant but I think she meant you don't have to discuss exposure with WH, not that you shouldn't have exposed.
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I am saying expose..
I am saying don't worry about discussing exposure...
he does what he does...ie affair...
you do what you do.....tell people of the affair...
if he's free to act...
so are you....
there's nothing to discuss...
he says..
ow knows of the affair...
you say...
uh huh...
that's goood...
he says...
you told him...
you say..
perhaps it came up ...
he says
it's not fair what you did...
you say..
life is not fair dear...
get it..
don't defend...
ARK
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Ask yourself these questions:
1. Do you believe in God
2. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to bring
him back home?
3. Can you forgive him.
Get ready to take your stand. Follow Plan A. Strentghen yourself and then worry about him !!!
Also go to rejoiceministries.org for some spiritual guidance through this.
Don't give up...We are all in or were in your situation and we will be glad to help where we can.
ME - 37 Husband - 34 Daughter - 8
Married 7-12-1997 Seperated - 1-28-2007
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