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I have a question and would like your input.
My wedding will take place at the end of this year. When is a good time for me to notify my XWH?
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why do you have to notify him at all?
mlhb
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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If you have children, I'd say as soon as you tell the children.
If you don't have children, but have all the same friends, I'd say it may be nice to send him a note, very short, as a courtesy. I'd hate to hear about it from a casual acquaintance.
Otherwise, I agree. It's not his business any more.
Divorced.
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Remarried 10/11/08
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Remarrying 12/17/15
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Thanks for your replies.
mlhb, I agree, that was my thought. However as soon as I announced my wedding date to my freidns and families, that was their first question, "When are you going to tell him?" My respond was, "It's none of his business." Then I think about it and my children all know, eventually one of them will mention it to XWH. Do I want to put them in a position where he will grill them for information or do I just tell him myself.
GG, all of our friends were my friends, he doesn't have any friends, so it won't spill from any of them. We do have 5 children together, the oldest does not talk to his father and my oldest daughter does not like to share any information with her father. My 3 younger children are 10 and 8 and I figure they might say something. I like your idea of writing him a note.
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