meremortal

I definitely agree aabout not having children with a cheater. It is a moot point for me because I cannot have kids anyway, but my WH's OW does have three teen sons and the damage she is inflicting on them is beyond comprehension. She walked out on them 3 months ago, and now they will have NOTHING to do with her. I pray for those young men daily.

And to top it off, OW wants to have children with my WH!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Go figure. Now WH does not want kids b/c it takes away attention from him and he literally cannot afford one child (he'd have to work two jobs to afford the food and diapers and all the other things babies need OR he'd have to work three jobs if OW did not want to work--and she did not work when she had her boys with her BH.

If she ends up getting preggers, so be it. But for the sake of that child, I also pray that does not happen...

This thread hits home for me. I've been deciding whether or not to post on it for a while.

I'm drawn to this board because I was a BS well before I came here. My wife of 10 years cheated on me. We went into MC, and we each went into IC. Six months later she really wanted to reconcile. I divorced her. Six years after that I can say that divorcing her is the best decision I've ever made. We had married comparatively young and, as it turns out, 10 years after the marriage we were not really that compatible. We weren't compatible socially, sexually or domestically. She's the one who cheated, but I was damned unhappy too.

This is one reason I have a tough time with some of these threads. Any discussion that starts with the principle "marriage is better than divorce" flies in the face of my personal experience where I'm certain my life is better because I am no longer with my first wife.

We did not have any kids. It would have been different with kids. Way different.