Hi, Rin!

Check out your local colleges or parks & rec department or whoever has these kinds of things. Ours (the local college and the parks and rec deparment both) have free or low-cost not-for-credit classes that they offer for all kinds of things, and I know I've seen grant writing come up regularly.

It's the same place where you'd find photography classes, beginning computer classes, learning how to invest, things like that. I bet a one or two-day class would really help you figure out some of the things that are throwing you off a little right now.

Grant-writing is pretty cool! Look at you just growing all over the place! Way to go! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

WELL THANKS AMI! I just called and left a message with someone at our local college...I'll start there and see what I can do...

See I learn new things everyday! I was also search on the net for some local classes or something...that sure would be one heck of a job skill to have...

OH, BC, you have to become a 501(c)3 to get a grant...non profit organition...or find one who would be willing to back you up, so I guess that leaves the both of us out of the water for personal stuff! LMAO...501(c)4 is for educational grants!

I learning it's just slow...I'm the kind of persont hat just wants the meat and potatoes, skip the blah stuff and just tell me what I have to do so I can do it! LMAO

Good Morning!

OMG, I have a job interview this morning...I haven't had a job interview in 5 yrs I think!

I am so nervous, I got the call on the way to work and had to quickly figure out how I was going to sneak over there without my present boss knowing!

So, I have L's kindergarten testing this morning, after that I'm going to drop him off and then head over there!

OMG, I'm so nervous!

Rin,

Slow down and BREATE!

Remember the Goddess is YOU. You know you are qualified and capable. THEY would be lucky to have you in their employment. Remember, THEY are being interviewed by YOU as much as you are being interviewed by them!

Besides, who wouldn't want one of Charlie's Angels on the payroll?

Good luck, you will do Great!

Hey Rin,

It's me - E. Had to reg a new name.

IABPS = ImAPlanBStud (thanks Mr. W)

Wishing you luck in your job interview.

Hi guys! Thanks, I called Spon. this morning and she reminded me that I don't have to give an answer right away...

It really depends on the money and I would like to have benefits...

E, you stud YOU! I would love to hear WHY you had to get a new name!

BUGS!!!! Thank you for that...great way of looking at it...

SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I did a search and I didn't find out very much info on them this morning...they appear to be a large company with offices around the nation, which is good if I wanted to move, but I don't...

I think I'm more nervous about pulling this off without my boss knowing! LMAO

Thank you again for all of your support!

Morning! Job interview was great, I declined the job...starting pay was half of what I make presently, but it was good practice...

L did an awesome job with his test this morning! LMAO...He's going to have personality problems in school! He was so cute, knew everything supre quick and he knew it was right and had attitude with it...

She would ask him to point to something and he would then flip the paper around in a circle!

We got out of testing early so, I dropped him off, and called to see if I could come by early for the interview...

I was told that I had an impressive resume! How awesome is that!!!

I also called my Laywer while I was out brought them up to daye on no CS for july or Aug, told them that the utility trailer and 4-wheeler are missing from the house, and that this weekend POWS brought the kids fishing with a friend of him (known drunk) and that they were both drinking while on the boat, in the presence of the kids!!!!!

I stopped by the house to confirm the missing stuff...I'm going to have to hire a crew to come in and clean JUST THE OUTSIDE. Of course, I didn't go inside b/c I don't have keys!

Anyway, more screw ups for POWS!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Good afternoon! I was feeling a little down this morning...feeling stuck...but I'm better after hearing from my Para...

I talked to her three times today...I called this morning b/c I have been hearing that POWS is never at the house and OP have been questioning me if he lives there...

So, I called to tell her about this and see if we can find out b/c if he's not then I know two little boys who would love to live there...

Well, she called me back staing that she was sending a fax over to POWS' Attorney about CS and the house...

SHE JUST CALLS ME AGAIN...questioning which motorcycle "we" sold...b/c in POWS' interogatorties POWS states that he owns the bike in question, so she is going to bring that to my Attorney's attention right now!

This is so funny, she got a kick out of this b/c POWS JUST told his laywer that the bike was sold in 2006 but in his JUNE interrogatories HE STATES THAT HE OWNS THE BIKE!!!!!

I know that you all have to have something to say about this one! This made my day! I feel like I'm moving forward...LMAO...at least a step at a time!!!

He's really tightening that noose around his neck everytime he opens his mouth. Can we say BUSTED?!

I predict that a) he's either going to eventually walk away from everything and let you get a default, b) you're suddenly going to get a settlement offer in your favor, or c) his attorney is going to fire him. I'll be curious to see what happens now.

Rin,

Just sit back, your documentation in hand, and watch the show as POWS self destructs!

BTW - how did it go yesterday?? Or did I miss a post?

Hi, Rin.

Kinda strange that he's not staying at the house. Maybe since he works night shifts, people just don't see him there during "normal" hours? And obviously the maintenance on the house is slipping, which might also make people think it's abandoned....

If you didn't have so long to wait until your court date, I'd say to just not worry about him and not care where he is living. But you're right -- if he's not there, you and the boys should be.

If you can prove that he's not staying there, maybe you can get an emergency injunction giving you the house until the hearing? But then again, isn't this hearing that keeps getting delayed supposed to be the "emergency" hearing?

Hmmmmmmm, Keep your ear to the ground, but don't get too caugh up in his stuff. And let him keep digging his own hole with the bikes, etc. He'll have given your lawyers so much ammunition by the time there's a hearing that they'll blow him completely out of the water.

Congrats on the job offer, even if you did decine it. Still feels good to know that people recognize how great you are. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

-AmI.

PM-


I don't see him walking away from everything butyou never can tell! What exactly do you mean by this? walking away from the process of D and no doing anything, therefore, he's not fighting me...

POWS has been pretty stubborn in the whole case...big fight in the beginning, refusing anything offered to him...

And what happens if his lawyer does fire him? if he doesn't obtain another?

BUGS- LMAO...you missed it...a few posts up...I declined the job, it was less pay, had benefits but half of what I'm making now...not good, plus I didn't see a changelle there for me...I thought that it would be more boring than the job I have now! LMAO...I chalked it up to needing to have the experience for the big fish that's out there for me!

I'm still working on finding grants, grant classes, and scholarships...very frustrating I must say...tough stuff! LMAO

AmI- POWs is on days...he's been seen all over the place...the yard's unkept...under the carport and garage is a total mess IMO...

I'm no more concern about WHAT he's doing whereever he's doing it or who he's doing it with, AS LONG AS HE DOESN't have the kids with him...if he has the kids then I'm interested...otherwise, he can drink himself into a comma...mean, but that's the way I feel about him right now...

He's not bothering me, not following me, not calling me...so I'm good, I have PLENTY of things to occupy my time...


I will do my best to follow your advice sweet lady!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Oh, and thanks for the advice on the classes, I'm still looking!

I've seen cases where there's a tooth and nail fight and in the end one party just gives up, fires his attorney and doesn't show. Default granted. You win.

Or his attorney has a "come to Jesus" meeting with him because of the lies and says you'll be better off settling. Ethically, his attorney can't let POWS testify if he KNOWS POWS is lying.

OTOH, if he pi**es off his attorney so much (for lying) his attorney can request to withdraw from the case. He can also withdraw if POWS quits paying him. If POWS doesn't get another attorney, he'll be pro se (representing himself) but with all the issues you guys have in your case, I don't see a favorable outcome for him if he goes that route.

If he DOES continue to the finish, he's going to be mighty embarassed by your attorney.

There would be some payoff in this for me...I have to be honest, I would love to see that!

Well, thank YOU SO MUCH PM...I haven't worried about the whole thing in a very long time...I was concerned about the papaerwork, but not "winning"...

I'm really relaxed and being patience...in God's time and not mine, it was hard to figure that out! His timing is SOOO much better than mine! Soon enough...til then, I just have to keep asking the right questions...

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Good Morning! It's going to be a really busy day today!

I had to stop at my mechanic's shop yesterday. Last week, i had to add some oil to my car b/c the gas light was on. Well, I checked it yesterday and it was down again. So, I picked up the boys and ran by there. So, today I have to go back adn he's going to change the oil and put a thicker weight in it. he double checked his work, and it's not leaking anymore, so it's burning it.

So, I'm getting an estimate to chenge the value gasket, and I have another problem with the ignition switch. So, an estimate on that too! I can't really talk bad about her, L calls her the "mommymobile"...TOO CUTE!!! She really didn't have a whole lot of maintaince when I was at home, just wasn't on the top of the list for POWS. Well, it's on the top of MY LIST!

So, I have that to do this afternoon, and I'm officially being elected to the board tonight, SO I'M ALL GODDRESSED UP! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> LMAO

Mechanic should love that TOO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Anyway, I'll be getting home really late tonight! My aunt's going to watch the kids for me, if we didn't have one of the councilman coming tonight I would drag them with me, like I usually do, but mom needs some time to herself sometimes.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I have to admit that this whole car thing has been part of the reason why I've been feeling down! My parents were nice enough to send me some money, so that has helped out too.

POWS is in the hole $1500 for the last two months, if my family hadn't stepped up to the plate and helped me out with getting the kids stuff for school, I don't know what I would have done!

Oh, OH, OH, ....after three years of being in the same class with HN1's DD, F is FINALLY in a class by himself...he missed getting in the class with her DS too! Just my thinking, but this is going to be a good year! I still haven't heard anything about HN1 moving, if they have gone the other house, but it really doesn't matter.

I think that enough time has passed that everyone's starting to see what he's relly about! I'm hearing that he's going through his friends! It's really so sad how Waywards can screw up their lives!

Anyway, today's a good day so far and I'm going to do my best to keep it that way! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thank you ALL for your support...E, BC, let me know how you guys are doing...same thing with you, Frog!

Take care!

Quick question, I hope someone knows the answer:

If POWS does not pay me any CS by the time we get to court, is there a possiblility that the judge would put him in jail?

he'll owe three months at that point...

In Texas your attorney would need to file a motion for contempt. He is in contempt because he is refusing to do something the Court ordered-- pay child support. A hearing is held on the motion for contempt and once the Judge finds him in contempt, he is ordered to pay or, explain why he can't or go to jail (right then). I don't know if Lousiana has the same process. It could be that the Judge can take it upon himself to find POWS in contempt without a motion being made. Ask your attorney about this and tell them you want it addressed at the hearing if he hasn't paid up by then. Or even better, ask them to file a motion NOW.

Oh and by the way. This is one of those scenarios where I've seen people walk away. They're so far behind in CS that they're AFRAID to appear before the Judge (not thinking that they're just making the situation 10X worse).

I'm not sure that there is a court order for CS right now .... right? Didn't he just agree to pay it?

If he just agreed that he would give you CS, and hasn't, then the most the judge can do is tell him he has to pay it -- back-order the support. Which is likely, since he already "admitted" that he should be paying it by agreeing to do so and making the first payment(s).


If you do have a court order, then I'd suggest taking it down to child support enforcement and having them go after him for you. They can get it garnished, collect the arrears, and do a lot of things that you'd have to pay your lawyer quite a bit to have him do for you. They can also filethe contempt charges -- or threaten them.

You have to have a court order, though, for any of those things to happen.


My guess is that he probably thinks he can get away with not paying since there is no order telling him he has to. And he's right -- inthe short term, he can get away with it. It will come back to bite him later on. One more thing to show his wonderful character to the judge when you guys do finally get to court.


What do you think about calling the IL's and asking them for help with school supplies, etc., since he's not helping? Maybe they could put some pressure on him to start stepping up and meeting his obligations.... ?

-AmI

I didn't even think about there not being a CS order in place. I thought there was. My bad. You're right though.

About the child support enforcement, I guess it depends on where you live as to how long that would take. I live in a big city and it would take awhile. If she got her attorney to handle it with a motion (yes, more money) wouldn't it get done faster? Especially if he sets the motion for hearing at the same time as the next hearing?